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My boyfriend has really low self esteem and depression.

He has taken anti-depressants but came off them after 9 months as he didn’t feel they were working. We have no sex life and while I’m prepared to support/help him and wait for him to “get better”, I’m starting to feel like this is how it’s going to be. I’ve just been reading a chapter of “He’s Just Not That Into You”, and can’t help but think that the low self esteem is an excuse. I love hi, but I don’t want it to be like this for the rest of my life. It’s been going on for nearly 18 months now.
I also suffer from depression, but the difference is that being with him makes me feel better. I sometimes feel that I just make him worse!
What should I do? Move on (and move him out of my flat) or stick by him? How do I make him see that I need more than he’s currently giving without sending him into meltdown?

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4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 19 hours after post)

sorry this seems really complicated, try talking to him first try havng him know how you feel, and let him know hes not obligated to be with you, and that though you love him you need a little more attention just a little more care…

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 days, 6 hours after post)

If you love him, you’ll probably stay by him. But love is never an everlasting feeling, if things change, then things do. You probably don’t love him as much as you did before due to him being this way.

A good talk with him is probably the way to settle things. Don’t make any decisions yet though, just a discussion with him about your and his current situation and how you guys want the future to be like.

Depression is a really serious condition, and you shouldn’t aggravate his condition further. He will need all the care, concern and help he can get instead of unnecessary aggravations.

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