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How do I get my friend to stop flirting with me?
I love it that he flirts with me, because it shows that he is interested. However, he has made it clear to me that he will not follow through with it because he has another girl. It bothers me because I view him as my soulmate, as well as my best friend. I want a future with him that could involve marriage, but I don’t want to be the other woman. So I resolve myself to just be a good friend, and force myself to move on emotionally to someone who is available.
Anyway, he flirts with me in ways that are really subtle. For example, time after time forgets to press his button on the elevator. One day he pressed his and mine and I said, “You pressed my button”. I actually was NOT flirting. He says back in a certain tone, “I pressed your button.” Or I almost fell on the bus and I grabbed his arm that happened to have a blood glucose monitor on it, under his shirt. He says to me, “you just wanted to touch me”. I said, “no I grabbed your thingie”. He says, “you touched my thingie alright”. So I blurted out, “You are flirting with me” and his response was “Yes, I am. You flirt with me”.
The difference is, is that I really want this with him. He has said that he doesn’t want it with me, so I have to take him on his word for it. I have no doubt in my mind that I am attractive to him.
Any way, how do I say something just as clever, in the kind of playful tone above that says, “Don’t flirt with me unless you are prepared to follow through”. Because ultimately, this dynamic leads me on and makes me think he wants more than he is willing to admit… for now. And I don’t want to be direct. It’s too serious. I’d rather say something playful, and subtle.
Got any good come backs for me?
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