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Im 21 & i’am in a long term relationship.

I am bossy, controlling & sometimes a bit snobbish. I really dont like the person I have become & will do whatever it takes to change!
Can anyone give me some advice please?

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Dorian offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Well, as luck would have it you’ve got a partner to help you out with this one. Talk to him and explain to him how you want to change, and get him to pull you up every time you do something bossy, controlling or snobbish

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sarahtodd199 offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

I used to be nice, considerate & caring.
I was bullied at school & had a miscarrrage.
I have been told I should have counselling but I havnt seen anyone to talk about my problems.

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Dorian offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

So, why haven’t you gone for counselling? You must have considered it when you were told you should go, but you decided not to. Why was that?

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Eddieee offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 624 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

I would suggest, to start listening again. Let the people around you be heard. It is a great place to start.

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sarahtodd199 offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Dorian - I was young and didnt think it would help.

Edieee - Thank you

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Dorian offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

And how about now?

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sarahtodd199 offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

I’m not sure, I think it might help.
I just wish I could turn back time & undo the damage that might have caused me to be who i am today!

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Dorian offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

Meh, regretting the past isn’t going to get you anywhere, you’ve gotta make the most of the present. If you think it would help, go talk to a counsellor. Whoever it is you are today, you still have a boyfriend who obviously cares about you, so you must be doing something right!

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artistguy offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

ok…the spiritual solution if u will hear it…we all want selfish control of others n ourselves to one degree or another…if we believe in Jesus - n i know thats a big if - then we die to self n live for Him…that makes us see others in a different light - n He gives the love needed to love even the unlovely, to forgive n to ask 4 forgiveness…its not easy but it works…not a sermon, just a thot…peace…

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sarahtodd199 offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 57 minutes after post)

Sorry I dont believe in god, Im more of a scientific person myself but thank you.

A friend gave me some advise, she said take it one day at a time, change one thing at a time & as time goes on make the changes bigger & more often.

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artistguy offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 4 minutes after post)

thats good advice from your friend…He made time for us to resolve those issues…

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