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Spycam. That way you can turn her in to the police. That’s what parents who think their children are being abused do.

Get video of her acting this way. Then ask a counselor how you can help her.

See if you can borrow a video camera from a friend. Then, next time you hear her acting that way to your mother, sneak in with the camera. Then take the camera immediately back to your friend, so your sister doesn’t have time to do anything to it.

I would absolutely agree on video taping it, but do not let her know. Hide a couple, borrow some camcorders. Do what it takes and be sneaky about it.

Your mom brought both of you into this world and that is just not right. A mothers love is bigger than ever. I can guarantee your mother is emotionally hurt beyond belief. I know that I would become sucidial if my daughter was doing that to me.

Spycam would do well, but you’d need to find one quickly. They aren’t too expensive, like 50 60 dollars. Maybe you could get the money from your mom. If she feels it’s a serious problem, she should want to help you, and get a good laugh from the video one day.

My boyfriends sister did this to his mother too. She would actually chase her mother with a knife. They found out that she is bipolar and is now in a program thats is on a Ranch out of state. There may be deep neurological problems with her. I would have her checked out by a doctor and a psycologist. And yes i am a ware that you are only her sister but you should bring this up to your mother.

I will pray for you guys as well as your sister. Stay strong!

Quantum_Spirit wrote:
Spycam would do well, but you’d need to find one quickly. They aren’t too expensive, like 50 60 dollars. Maybe you could get the money from your mom. If she feels it’s a serious problem, she should want to help you, and get a good laugh from the video one day.

I do not see how someone seriously being abused could be a great laugh someday. that is detrimnetal to that poor woman.

Do the cams, hide them and get your proof. If you do not want her to get into trouble, then seek therapy with only copies of the tapes. never let her know where the originals are.

wow, i dont understand why your mother lets her treat her that way. but you guys sound like a disfunctional family alltogether. so having a doctor check out your sisters mental health would be a good idea.

Anonymous wrote:
wow, i dont understand why your mother lets her treat her that way. but you guys sound like a disfunctional family alltogether. so having a doctor check out your sisters mental health would be a good idea.

Thats rude to say, that they are dysfunctional. Every family has their problems. Even yours.

Just because one person need shelp doesn’t mean everyone is f******* in the head!

lemme see… she has Social Anxiety Disorder, the father cant deal with screaming children, the mother lets her little daughter beat the crap out of her… sounds to me like they all need to see a shrink.

Anonymous wrote:
lemme see… she has Social Anxiety Disorder, the father cant deal with screaming children, the mother lets her little daughter beat the crap out of her… sounds to me like they all need to see a shrink.

ohh ya thats right and that just gives you the right so say to someone, who is having ahard time with all of this LOOKING FOR HELP, hey your family is dysfunctional.

Grow up and realize that if people are looking for help, mean words will birng them down more.

so being blunt equals being mean? interesting theory.

Anonymous wrote:
so being blunt equals being mean? interesting theory.

Are you dumb? if people are going through hard times, especially females, you do not be blunt. Sugar coat things in a way for them to understand.

Anyway, im not wasting my time to argue with you, im here to help someone in anice way…

not all females are made of sugar. i am female and i do prefer people being blunt. it makes life easier.
anyhow, i didnt mean to be rude or mean here. i was just trying to help someone realize that they need to get some serious help. and if you sugar coat that, they wont get it.

Anonymous wrote:
not all females are made of sugar. i am female and i do prefer people being blunt. it makes life easier.
anyhow, i didnt mean to be rude or mean here. i was just trying to help someone realize that they need to get some serious help. and if you sugar coat that, they wont get it.

Like I said, sugar coat in a way to where maybe they can understand and not everyone is like you where they can handle blunt things. You really need to consider that. And if they are coming on here, I think they know they need serious help…They are on help.com, it will hit them eventually.

And if someone is going through psychological crap like that, you should be careful how you say things.

@ boston baby blues, i just read all of your posts and man… i am impressed. you are married to a man who physically abused you, you cant stand him touching you anymore, but you are still married to him, and you want to be with a guy who lives 5 hours away and whom you dont trust already, because u think he is a player, and, to top things off, you are jealous of your brother, your family doesnt take you serious and they obviously dont want you to come along for anything. you should know all about disfunctional woman.
and i m not saying this to be mean or rude to you. this is my opinion. now some blunt words for you:
i m sure you are a very nice lady. you sound like it. but you need to get some help for yourself. seriously. your husband might have changed for the better but if you cant stand being around him, what good is holding on to that marriage? especially if you are “dating” other people. and if you suspect that guy, who lives 5 hours away, of being a player, you should forget about him. there are so many guys in the world! quit picking the ones who suck! you deserve a good man, so go and get one. and as far as being jelous of your brother and his “perfect little life”… no life is perfect. having a baby puts a lot of stress on a relationship. step up for yourself and tell you parents in simple words that you feel locked out and that you demand to be part of the family fun stuff again. a first grandchild is always something huge, but it shouldnt let the grandparents forget about their other children and their needs. thats being selfish.

hahaha why dont you jusy show your name

its a screenname, it doesnt make a difference, because its fake. did i offend you with my reply? because again, that was not my intention. maybe i should stick to getting advise on here rather than giving it? my bluntness seems to upset people a lot.

Anonymous wrote:
its a screenname, it doesnt make a difference, because its fake. did i offend you with my reply? because again, that was not my intention. maybe i should stick to getting advise on here rather than giving it? my bluntness seems to upset people a lot.

Well, i can totally understand how you feel that being blunt can help people and it will solve problems. You are a much stronger woman than most. A lot of people can’t take it. Especially in this situation where someone is watching their own mother get beat by the sister.

And you also have to think, you do not know how old any of these people are…….What if you are too blunt with a 12 year old?

you would be surprised what a blunt word can do to a teen… i guess i am just fed up with seeing all that misery. i am a social worker and i see a lot of bad things all day. its frustrating and being blunt is one way of dealing with it. but thanks for your kind words. there is some truth about them.

im ashamed to admit it but when i was younger i beat on my mother.not because i wanted something but because i was so angry and she was the closest target.i will always feel guilty.your sister needs some sort of therapy.that helped me.

lindzivade wrote:
i say u show her respect and disown her makes me sick i lost my mom jan an people like that dont deserve one

Im sorry you lost your mom. i do not know what I would do. i go to her EVERYTHING and I tell her even the smallest things that others would think I am stupid for. My mother is such a blessing in my life.