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What should I do?

My husband is in the army and currently deployed. I came home for the deloyment b/c after he got back he would be getting out or ETSing. However now 9 months in, he wants to re enlist for two years and reclass, go back to school for another job and then get out. I thought we were done. I want to be police officer more than anything. I have started to fill out the app. It’s my dream. I’m 23 and I want this so bad now. We have grown apart this deployment it’s our 3rd. Should I go and follow him around or go ahead w/ the police thing. I told him I wanted him to get out and he told he would but now has changed his mind and says just two more years now. He knows I want this and says just do it when we get our duty station. But the station here is hiring now and who know where we’ll be going. Any help please. Thank You!!

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 130 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Do your own thing. Sounds like he’s doing his without any consideration for you. Now you have to do what you have to do.

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darkscorpia offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 18 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

NoGifts wrote:
Go ahead with the police thing. This is your dream, and you should always have a career that will support you “just in case.” You can’t always depend on a husband to support you. Stay where you are and get started with the life YOU dreamed of.

I agree.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (5 days, 20 hours after post)

This sounds like a young crowd that is answering you, so I’ll give you some life experience…..Your husband is searching for himself and as a wife, which is a traditional relationship, you must make some sacrifices to support him in a career.

It sounds like you are young and bored, but he has direction, which is good. There is nothing worse for a marriage than a husband with no plan for the future………..Sounds like you need to be single, or compromise; that’s what marriage is about. Ideally, love is supporting your mate, if you can’t figure out how to occupy your time (and I don’t mean having a baby), you are not trying hard enough. Join a tennis club or something you like and will look forward to in the mornings.

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