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Why do people always come to me to tell their secrets?

Naturally I am a bit of a gossip so it is so difficult not to tell anyone but so many people recently have asked if they can talk to me in confidence. I dont have a problem with it but Im just wondering.

Do I have confidant written across my head or something?

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Jubilee offline Verified User (8 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

well from what little i know of you, you come across as trustworhy and almost unnervingly easy to talk to, either that or you just have a sympathetic face :p

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littlenick online Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 160 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Now, but as beautiful as you are and as angelic as your face is, you look like a person who would be trustworthy and able to keep a secret.

I would tell you all my secrets!

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Keckers online Verified User (7 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Eh.
Some people are just easy to talk to I guess.
I’m sure you’ve shown quite a couple of times that you’re not a judgmental person perhaps that’s why.
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PheeGee offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 97 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Haha, thanks you guys. I just find it odd because Im not one of those “I love that we have this secret we share” people, I am a bit of a gossip and I just wonder why they would choose me to tell. Even people I barely know.

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thelma.dair offline Verified User (8 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Perhaps you seem like an open person who wont cross judge them

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Jubilee offline Verified User (8 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

lots of people ask to know stuff as well, for example i know i can be too nosey sometimes, maybe by not asking to know people’s secrets you inadvertently encourage them to? like a sort of accidental reverse psychology.

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paranoiaman offline Verified User (1 year, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

Maybe it’s Karma, nudging you in the direction of being there for someone who needs a trustworthy ear, to let them unburden in confidence, to atone for your prattling, loose-tongued past? ;-)

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Barbyman offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

they tell you because they know that you are a Blubber Mouth and cant keep Secrets…

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PheeGee offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 97 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Barbyman wrote:
they tell you because they know that you are a Blubber Mouth and cant keep Secrets…

I can, I just hate doing it

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Commander Ikari online Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 79 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

because postsecret is too picky.

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Barbyman offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

I cant keep Secrets and i dont want to know Secrets but my next song on the 2nd Album has ….. I have secrets i could never tell
The Reason is im going to Hell
I got cars in Red ,White and Blue
But im not happy,because i miss you
barbyman.com

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Sigurrós offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

Can I tell you a thing, people do the same to me in a way, in addition I also tend to show up on the “radar” for autistic people somehow.

This guy at the busstop actually told me all about his autism/ADD and that I somehow showed up on his radar, he used the exact words that I was thinking just the day before that - I had this whole conversation with him, it was great.

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PheeGee offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 97 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

That is bizarre! I mean, in a good way but still..

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Jubilee offline Verified User (8 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 4 hours after post)

Commander Ikari wrote:
because postsecret is too picky.

love it ^_^

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~willard~ offline Verified User (9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week after post)

Because your so trustworthy and your a very good listener and i alwasy seem to find help in the answeres you give me. Your a very appreciated person and we all love you!

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daniphantom91 offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

You know, it’s a compliment to know that people feel that you’re trustworthy. But if it gets to be too much, you could always tell them that you have problems or your own.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

paranoiaman wrote:
Maybe it’s Karma, nudging you in the direction of being there for someone who needs a trustworthy ear, to let them unburden in confidence, to atone for your prattling, loose-tongued past? ;-)

I like that. Might be?

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Sigurrós offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (2 months after post)

I’ve been thinking - maybe people trust you because you do not tell lies, because you are a honest person and they can see that somehow (even if you can not see that in yourself); there must be compassion shining in your heart.

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