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I’m Lonely

I’ve never thought that I would be the one to say this. I usually enjoy my solitude. I really do. Out of all the things I could be doing in summer (like going on a vacation, hanging out with friends, spending time with family, etc.) I just like to go to a big bookstore and grab a cup of coffee and just sit in their cafe reading my book.

It feels great to be alone. No one is there to interrupt the chain of thoughts. No one will go like “hey” just to start a conversation because they are bored. It’s just peace and quiet.

But now, I am lonely. Although I am antisocial, usually when I’m lonely I will still call an acquaintance or a friend. I still try to make myself feel better. But this time it’s different. I don’t wanna call them. I don’t wanna do anything to stop this loneliness. Even when I’m with people I will probably be lonely.

I don’t know what’s going on anymore.
So now it’s just me and Menuett G Dur BWV.anh.114

I don’t think I’m asking for help either… I guess I just want to let it out.

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tatoshtatosh offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Maybe you just want to be alone because you are just afraid to be with someone else…many people avoid it, they don’t want to be with someone, because they are afraid to lose…it hurts too much…when you are alone, u think about yourself…your life…I think u need a time to think, what u want from your life…and u will understand…
so try it…;)

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

I can feel u r feelings TJ..
but, you have to find someone…..the world may be sometimes rude and unfair,but, you can’t just avoid it.
Being lonely is nice feeling, i felt that too.
But, you have to have friends..you have find someone special for you..
You need to enjoy this world by sharing…
you need both loneliness and with peoples…
Well, is just my thought..
i felt like saying, since i felt the same before…

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

But the thing is, I think a lot. And life is probably what I think about the most.

And I’m still lonely even when I’m with someone else.
I am not afraid to be with someone else. That stopped a long time ago.

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

❤ℓινιηgJst4u wrote:
I can feel u r feelings TJ..
but, you have to find someone…..the world may be sometimes rude and unfair,but, you can’t just avoid it.
Being lonely is nice feeling, i felt that too.
But, you have to have friends..you have find someone special for you..
You need to enjoy this world by sharing…
you need both loneliness and with peoples…
Well, is just my thought..
i felt like saying, since i felt the same before…

I understand that. And I do have friends, and someone special.
It’s just right now, I feel lonely when I’m with people, and without people… I’m alone.

That just sounds really confusing.
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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

Its a good thing to think a lot!
But, you are forget the important thing..that is wht you are now.
Its like wht you are thinking is an imaginary world, and where yuo living is the real..
you need to get along…

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Tearjerker wrote:

❤ℓινιηgJst4u wrote:
I can feel u r feelings TJ..
but, you have to find someone…..the world may be sometimes rude and unfair,but, you can’t just avoid it.
Being lonely is nice feeling, i felt that too.
But, you have to have friends..you have find someone special for you..
You need to enjoy this world by sharing…
you need both loneliness and with peoples…
Well, is just my thought..
i felt like saying, since i felt the same before…

I understand that. And I do have friends, and someone special.
It’s just right now, I feel lonely when I’m with people, and without people… I’m alone.

That just sounds really confusing.
:\

yes it does.
Do you mind, if i ask, what do you think when you’re with people?
and yea, don’t say the word “i’m alone” if you have someone special.

Are you confused with some other problems?

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alex_man12345678 offline Verified User (7 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 44 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

It’s good that you do have friends.

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

❤ℓινιηgJst4u wrote:
Its a good thing to think a lot!
But, you are forget the important thing..that is wht you are now.
Its like wht you are thinking is an imaginary world, and where yuo living is the real..
you need to get along…

That doesn’t make sense. Like… I’m thinking about some other situation rather than the current situation?

❤ℓινιηgJst4u wrote:

yes it does.
Do you mind, if i ask, what do you think when you’re with people?
and yea, don’t say the word “i’m alone” if you have someone special.

Are you confused with some other problems?

It’s different with different people. Sometimes I just think that now that I spent time with people, I just want my solitude. I usually think about the past when I people. What happened between us. If it’s someone close to me, I usually don’t think about anything.
I said “without people… I’m alone”
And that’s the truth.

I might be confused with other problems, but I haven’t really thought about that so they are not all that big of a deal.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

Its ok…
There is nothing to say.
As long as you’re happy, it doesn’t matter.
Be the way you are:)

(As times passes by, you will know it.)

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

But I’m not happy now though…

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

Tearjerker wrote:
But I’m not happy now though…

why is that:|?

ha!!!
Tht wht am trying to sy frm the begining.
Be happ together with friends..funny gags…fights..travel..shopping ..whoa..lots to say..
you’re missing it.
You need to enjoy.

unless, do you or are you facing any PROBLEMS??

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tatoshtatosh offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

If u think a lot…try to think about someone abstractly…someone, whome you’l like a lot…create this person in your mind and think that u will find her…and I’m sure YOU WILL !!! and after u’ll not feel lonely…live for another person, make her happy…

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (48 minutes after post)

tatoshtatosh wrote:
If u think a lot…try to think about someone abstractly…someone, whome you’l like a lot…create this person in your mind and think that u will find her…and I’m sure YOU WILL !!! and after u’ll not feel lonely…live for another person, make her happy…

hey!!! It happen to me!!!
reallYy!!!!

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (50 minutes after post)

❤ℓινιηgJst4u wrote:

Tearjerker wrote:
But I’m not happy now though…

why is that:|?

ha!!!
Tht wht am trying to sy frm the begining.
Be happ together with friends..funny gags…fights..travel..shopping ..whoa..lots to say..
you’re missing it.
You need to enjoy.

unless, do you or are you facing any PROBLEMS??

I’m only 15 though… and every time I’m going somewhere… someone’s gotta drive me. I dont really wanna bother people. And I’m not a big fan of shopping.
And I do enjoy life, just not now.

I used to have problems. But they were just some conflicting thoughts in my head. Like.. how I used to don’t wanna open up to people because I’m afraid I will get hurt. But that’s over now.

tatoshtatosh wrote:
If u think a lot…try to think about someone abstractly…someone, whome you’l like a lot…create this person in your mind and think that u will find her…and I’m sure YOU WILL !!! and after u’ll not feel lonely…live for another person, make her happy…

I’m a girl. And creating people in my head is not healthy.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

u r girlO_O!!
anyway, u can’t solve unless u let it out to someone , right???

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (55 minutes after post)

❤ℓινιηgJst4u wrote:
u r girlO_O!!
anyway, u can’t solve unless u let it out to someone , right???

Yeah. But nothing happened. It’s just a sudden feeling.
Even if I was to let it out to someone, I wouldn’t now what to say. And I would sound like a crazy person.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (57 minutes after post)

Tearjerker wrote:

❤ℓινιηgJst4u wrote:
u r girlO_O!!
anyway, u can’t solve unless u let it out to someone , right???

Yeah. But nothing happened. It’s just a sudden feeling.
Even if I was to let it out to someone, I wouldn’t now what to say. And I would sound like a crazy person.

you won’t…
Everyone has something going on there head..it may sound crazy to others,but to me(to you) it must something precious.
If yu want to, you can tell me…
i don’t knw i could help you..but i will try.

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tatoshtatosh offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (59 minutes after post)

I think when we dream…we create something or someone in our minds… and it’s very healty to dream…
but u can do as u like…

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

yea…I dream..
It may sound crazy , but, i’ve someone in my head for years who listen, hears and make me feel better when i’m sad…
Jst imaginary thing..but, i did helped me when i’m alone..
but, i’m not now.

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

tatoshtatosh wrote:
I think when we dream…we create something or someone in our minds… and it’s very healty to dream…
but u can do as u like…

Interesting.
But to create someone in my head on purpose is not good. I’ll get attached to something that isn’t real. I had that. It was just a friend, named Jasper. It helped during that old time, but I don’t think it’s healthy.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 7 minutes after post)

^ have a friend. You sayed you have someone special. You need to have someone real to listen to you every time you need, online, imaginary things, are not real and get get you addicted.

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

But sometimes I just don’t wanna bother my friends with my problems. I know friends are supposed to help each other. But sometimes the problems are just not all that important. And that’s why I use this website. It’s the best place to let things out of my head.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

^ sometime, if you have a real real friend, you could tell him/her everything. You won’t bother if he/she really cares about you.

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

I know that. But that doesn’t help how I feel. You see, I don’t like to tell them about every problem because I feel like I’m dragging them down with me. And no matter how many times they say that they are totally fine with me talking about my problems, I would still feel bad to talk about it.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

I guess….bye then:)

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (12 hours, 53 minutes after post)

Ah, well I have pinpointed my current mood swings to lonelyness, I don’t think I have as good or as bad as you. It’s like you seem to have it bad because you have friends and a boyfriend, but then again you at least have those, so I can’t say whether you are better of or not, but I kinda know how you feel in some way.
I cannot speak for all your friends, as I do not know them, but you would not be a bother to me if you ever feel the need to vent even the smallest thing. If you have aim, mine is PKborange, but if you don’t, just give me a shout on here, I am online about the same amount of time daily, and both are set up so people can tell me something even if I am offline.
Everyone deserves to vent about anything that bothers them, don’t let it build up inside, it will only hurt more in the end :(

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (13 hours, 2 minutes after post)

Or of course you can just make a post XD
pit might take a while for me to notice you have without invite or mention, but I find them eventually

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (13 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Thank you AlphaKnight.
Somehow that cheered me up.
:]
Though I still feel lonely, but i’m better.

I was going to invite you here… but then I felt that I didn’t wanna bother anyone… and just let people choose to look at my post instead of sending them invites.

And I do have AIM. It’s Marauders94.
I’m online even more than I use this website.

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THE INTERNET offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (13 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Well, it doesn’t bother me, so send an invite next time, I can try helping sooner XD

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Hellacious Haro offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (13 hours, 18 minutes after post)

:]
thanks, and the same goes for you.

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (14 hours, 54 minutes after post)

Okay, thank you

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (1 week, 6 days after post)

Honeslty, I can relate to a fault. Since recently, Ive been more alone they I used to be, and at first I hated it, but then I adapted. So on those rare occasions when I was invited to something, suddenly I just felt like staying home with just me. Its not heathly thats for sure, but its what makes you happy for some odd reason. It cant be fully explained either. I know for me, Im sort of tied up right now, cuz my last year of high school is starting up soon, and im sort of afraid to have to meet more people. Id rather not lol

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