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wait!if she didn’t speak about it u tell her urself.not straitly of course!tell her u can’t afford the money 4 the rent does she agree another person 2 join u or not??then she’ll understand what u mean,or say s.th with this meaning.I hope it’ll help
you should just talk to them about it just ask dont foot the bill for someone else they more than likely wouldnt do it for you
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Thanks for your reply NoGifts.
I’ll explain the situation to you so that you can get more of an understanding of it. She is my friend from work. Her Dad bought her a house after remortgaging his own home, leaving him a lot of extra cash which he used on this property. My friend is now paying her Dad’s mortgage. Before she moved in she said that she would definately need someone to live with her as she wouldn’t afford it alone. That’s where I come in! So it was agreed that I would pay £400 a month rent, which includes all bills. I don’t know what this new guy would be paying. He’s moving in cause he has no where else to stay. It’s not like my friend needs an extra income.
nlfr, I can afford it, I just thought that my rent should be altered since there would now be three of us.
See, this is what I’ve been thinking… If we are both paying half and half, then any money she gets from him is just in her pocket. So I was thinking that half of what he pays should be deducted from what I pay.
Kinda agree with you fairy!
Now how to brigh the topic up…
Well, I think it would have been easier when she first told you about the guy moving in, but now I think the best time would be when you are paying the rent for the end of the month, unless he is moving in before that…
Do it atleast a week before he moves in…
The simplest way would be doing it straiht on, like ‘now that so and so is moving in hw are we going to split the expenses?’…
Works better when you are payign the rent though…
Dont beat round the bush, cause if she wants to avoid it it’ll only make things more frustrating…
I know u can afford it,but she doesn’t!!I know it would be a lie,but i just meant u have to force her 2 think about money,maybe she’s so happy 4 coming her friend 2 her house that she hasn’t even notice this subject.what’s more R u sure she want accept his money??maybe her friend has financial problems which she’s aware of,but u aren’t,maybe for 2-3 months she doesn’t want 2 take money.besides that according 2 urself his room is really little & he’s not @ home permanently,do u use that room?or it’s useless??maybe she doesn’t want 2 take money at all!it’s better to investigate about it.not 2 ask him/her straitly,it doesn’t seem good they might be annoyed or s.th,ask their friend again not straitly 4 example u can ask one of his/her friend:I was wondering how much this room cost?!one of my friend asked me once,he wanted 2 rent it,but I told him I can’t ask since my friend owns it…,got?!!
Thanks R.A.M, it’s a good suggestion.
nlft, thank you for your help, but I cannot lie. Especially not to a good friend. And it’s due to ask someone how much rent they pay.
I’m just gonna play dumb and ask how much rent will be now that there are three of us in the house.
Hey!
Your welcome!
Hope things work out well…
as i told u i don’t say lieng ur friend.I told it might seems a lie,I said make her think about money,maybe she’s so happy that hasn’t think of it yet…but if u though I’m advising u 2 lie!!!It was my fualt,I couldn’t explain my oponion clearly.I apologize…ur desicion is really good
p.s:i read my post again,I think anyone else would think the same way!! :))
really sorry,again
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maybe & maybe not!!It’s possible that they are good friends & because of that she’s afraid of offending her friend by speeking about money.we can’t conclude…
That’s exactly what I’m going to do T.A. Just straight up ask like I didn’t know any different. She is a very good friend yes, and I would hate to cause any offence to her.
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well, like u said…shes ur friend=) which could either make it difficult or fairly easy. in this situation, difficult. but maby u should try bringing it up casualy, if u 2 are out to lunch or together anytime just chating say somthing. because shes ur friend, u to can talk=) no worries step by step, and take it as it comes.
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Need help on how to approach a difficult situation.
I live with my friend and I pay her £400 a month rent. Soon, her other friend is also moving in with us in the spare room. It’s a really little room and he will be away out of the country a couple of days a week as he is Cabin Crew.
Now, one would assume that my rent would be adjusted because there will now be three of us here. But, my friend hasn’t said anything about it. I don’t know how to bring it up with her because she is my friend. If I was just a tennant it wouldn’t be so hard. I really don’t know how to approach this situation.
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