Only being with one person your entire life? - Help.com

I wouldn’t say it was unhealthy. Your first love is always special but its hard to get a sense of perspective without others. That being said, if you do have a relationship that works and you are happy and loved why not?

Well this isn’t related to me but someone close to me, shes in her early twenties and has never dated anyone until this guy and they are very serious and are even talking about marriage. i wonder if being with one person is good or not because you dont get to experience other people.

This question does not have a yes and no answer as it depends mainly on the situation…
Imagine you marry your highschool love and live your whole life with them…
Then what?
But lets say yor in your early 30’s and have not been in a relationship yet and have no idea of the dynamics involved…
Whats hte answer?
I do feel that one should enter a relationship for the long haul though… or atleast long term plans in mind and not for the sake fo being in one or lust…

true ram. but i dont see the problem with entering a relationship without thinking about the future, just to be with them and enjoy them and experience new things. i just dont want her to get married to this guy and sometimes down the line feel like shes missed out on being with other people… you know?

i think maybe if people don’t have a couple of relationships before settling down, they might think of what they missed out on later on, and then be unfaithful..
however, people who haven’t been in a relationship before, haven’t been hurt, haven’t got the grudges or bad experiences of things that have happened with previous people, so it makes them totally neutral and they can deal with things as they happen,and not compare it to something which may have happened before

Well,
It mainly goes with the fact that if you enter the relationship for just the now, then it means that you have not much feelings of love for that person and are just using them for the sake of an experience, which since your not in love is nothing like the real thing, which then distorts your perception of what a real relationship should be like… It also shows that you have not too much respect for that person…

I don’t think it matters at all, some people just liek to wait for the right person to come along. If teh right person for you is the first person your ever with, then thats probably better than searchnig through hundreds of peopel for them! One downfall is you’ll hae less experience, but that doesn’t really amean to much

There is no reason why is couldn’t work between them, but as ram said love tends to distort your view. The passion will wear off and you have to hope what your left with is enough to be together. Without experience its hard to tell the difference and that would be my only worry.

true. well i agree that if you find someone special why think you need to be with other people? but i know from experience that even the relationships that dont last long can be really good because its an eye opener like you guys said.
i know i should just leave them to it but i cant stop this aching feeling that shes gonna regret it.

Nooo my identity is revealed, lol. Oh well.

lol

Wasn’t too much of an embarrassing post though so oh well. :P

Before someone gets into a long term relationship (such as marriage), they need to be mature and know themselves first and foremost.

Part of “knowing yourself” (and therefore, what you want in life) could be a result of having dated before and learning what you DON’T want. Part of “knowing yourself” could come from remaining single, building a career, having many friends, and traveling before settling down.

I do think, though, that if you have serious relationships before marriage, you have the potential of feeling like you lost out, especially as the marraige winds its way through the twists and turns, ups and downs of life. You could be disenchanted with your partner, thinking that “someone else” would have been a better choice. The thing that you need to remember is that if you had been with “someone else,” they would end up leaving smelly socks on the floor, having bad breath, and being not “all that,” as well at some point. If you stick it out instead of rushing for a divorce lawyer, I think you will be blessed in the long run. This is where the maturity level plays a factor.

On the flip side, if you DON’T have previous relationships, as your marriage becomes “old hat,” you could begin to wonder about what you missed out on. Again, maturity, insight, and a willingness to stick it out plays a big factor.