I can empathise with you COMPLETELY. I am literally in the EXACT same boat. I am also 80 kg, or just below. And every time someone says to me ‘have you tried this’ or ‘maybe you shouldn’t eat that’, I get VERY defensive and I immediately get upset and say ‘you should love me as I am, you’re too superficial’ and so on. But the thing is, when people care about you, they care about EVERY aspect of you. And granted, there are people out there who will slag you about your weight, and will judge you because of it. But the TRUE, real people who care about you for who you are, will only worry because it IS a scientific fact that being overweight is unhealthy, puts you at higher risk for a zillion different diseases and illnesses, and if they love you, they want you to be healthy.
So, every time someone tries to give you advice, see it as a positive thing, that they actually CARE enough about you to want you to lose weight. If they didn’t care about you, they wouldn’t bother giving you advice. So every time they say something, they are actually saying ‘I love you’ in their own way.
I once went to Weight Watchers, and lost over 7 kilos in three weeks. But I stopped going because I am so young, and I felt so out of place and ashamed. But I am going back first thing tomorrow, and I am going to do my best this time, and not give up. And last time I got annoyed when people kept interfering, like you just said. But this time, I am doing it only for me, not for them. And if I feel like giving up just to spite them, I will remember that I will only end up spiting myself.
And I know you said you didn’t want or need advice, but my experience with weight watchers was incredible. I did a kick start programme, and each day I had a healthy breakfast (similiar to what I’d usually have), a healthy lunch, and a delicious dinner with dessert!!!! Either a scoop of lowfat icecream, or a weightwatchers chocolate brownie (which are INCREDIBLE!) or something else. I lost 6 kilos in those two weeks, and I never once felt like I had given something up. The great thing is, it really is DEAD easy. They do all the work for you. The kick start programme I did had all the meals laid out in a book, and you just swopped and changed them for each day as you felt like it. You can eat ANYthing you want once you write down the points.
So I would recomment it. I never once had to count calories or carbs or saturated fat or fibre or anything. I am pure useless at all that. All I had to do was use my calculater to calculate points, and then leave it at that.
well, I am heavier than all of you and it has been a life-long battle. Okay, you are worthy and a size 14 is okay for some people. Depends on size of skeleton and height, and muscle mass. But, I am where you are and feel terrible about myself. BUt, Iwasn’t always that way. I always had someone in my life no matter what my size. Then everybody I ever loved died, and that support system was no more. I lost everything but weight. I gained, and thought that if someone just loved me I would lose. About five years ago, a doctor told me I would never be able to work again,that I would be a cripple. I said to myself, “this is not good” So, lo and behold I had ordered a Reader’s Digest Alternative Therapies Book because they just would not leave me alone. I opened it to Yoga one day, and I was on the floor withing minutes,doing YOga, Taught myself and saw on Oprah that I was, indeed, doing everything right. Yoga incorporates correct breathing and when we are stressed about what ever we tend to not deep breathe. Wait! I’m getting there. So, I started the baby Yoga and remember I am in a great deal of pain and don’t do drugs, and I started the breathing correctly. I noticed that my jaws were becoming less tense. SOOOOOO, I ordered some Nitrazine paper from my pharmacist and tested my pH of my saliva and urine before and after Yoga. Turns out, my pH was acidic before Yoga and alkaline afterwards. Well, with pH. you want to be alkaline but with stress it increases steroids that our body makes, Cortisol, and this makes us hungrier, holds onto weight, water, and perpetuates anxiety and more stress. In other words, a vicious cycle is going on, and it also makes us crave carbs and there you have it because sugar and carbs kill. We need some carbs, but the complex kind not the candy bar, birthday cake kind. I did these tests because I am somewhat of a scientist and wanted to see the actual results from me in real time. It woke me up and I started doing Yoga two to three times a day when allowed for about fifteen minutes at a time. Began feeling better, and then started baby treadmill training. Then adjust diet. I ate one meal a day that was anything I wanted. I mean anything. Then, any other meal was lean meat,or soy or egg whites with plenty of salad and green, yellow,red,purple veggies,as many as I wanted. Then, after I got through massive carb withdrawal and corrected my pH that was from Mega stress, don’t we all have it in one form or another, and I went to veggie burgers, eggs, meat, lots of big salads with even real bacon on it. Just no bread, no white anything, no sugar, sugar alcohols, plenty of water. Ah,the end result,Barbie. Now,that I am a little older, I am back here again, so I started taking my fiber again with plenty of water, fiber binds with the fat and helps flush out the fat and toxins that keep us females bloated! It helps with the pooping and all and keeps your Gi tract healthier. Also, a very good Probiotic needs to be taken to help with all of it,and you can go online and read about them. I have given you the key and I am starting over with fiber, water, Yoga, breathing deeply. less refined anything, no sugar, and lots of veggies and great protein. You will get enough carbs from salads if you put enough fresh veggies in them Most of all, when you start losing you get the eye of the tiger and you go for it! Let me warn you, that emotional eating has been my undoing. If you get upset, eat something that is not that great for you, but not refined sugar. All is lost.It will create a vicious cycle of craving and it will undo all of your hard work. Good luck and I hope I catch a break too.
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