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About 2 months ago my fiance walked out on me. We had been together and lived together for almost a year. Her living with me was forced, as her mom kicked her out. So i let her stay with me. I failed to keep my boundries up, i gave her something i was saving for my wife. It turns out she deceived me, and was acting in a way to appease me. Finally should couldnt take it anymore, and walked out. We have spoken to eachother on civil terms, but she makes no effort to talk to me or see me. She has anger and resentment issues towards many people including me.
Ok with that little bit of background, here is my question. Currently the last 2 Sundays i went to this group counseling thing, where she attends almost regularly. The old guy that speaks, my ex has this thing where she thinks he can do no wrong. She views him has a personal saviour almost. She is confused and a weak person. I love her and i would have agreed to get couple counseling but she only wanted to use this old guy. The man is not qualified to counsel people in relationships, he is a self proclaimed wise man.
She has not said or acted like she wants our relationship to work, she said she left because of her anger issues. She has insulted me and treated me with much disrespect, and yet she acts like she is guilty of nothing. My dilemma right now is should i go to this meeting, or should i not go and continue my life like she is gone. Because in reality she is gone. I cant understand after everything we shared together, she through it all away. I am not the best man in this world, but i truly loved her. I tried my best to be fair with her, i failed but i never gave up. She finally gave up on me, she left me so she could deal with her own issues.
I am heartbroken and lost. I dont want to make myself see an illusion. Whenever i talk to her or see her, i feel devastated emotionally. How she has done what she has done is wrong. If she really loved me she would have stayed if i agreed to work on the relationship. She acted like a coward and left me high and dry. The hardest thing for me to accept is she doesnt love me. I know if she did love me, she wouldnt have left me. I cant claim to understand her, but how could someone leave their fiance no matter how not good they felt?? She doesnt want to try to save our relationship, she just ended it and its no longer a living thing.
I know we have to be friends, i dont want to be in a relationship with her anyway. I want girls advice mainly, but guys are welcome to comment.
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