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oooh… emily, this is a GREAT question, but it’s late and I have to get to sleep soon.

Many relationships start off without fighting for the first bunch of months and it is normal to start fighting a little after that once you are more comfortable with each other. Most relationships actually end up requiring hard work to stay together, even the most loving ones. BUT, that doesn’t help you b/c you are clearly fighting too much.

So… the first question is: what are you fighting about? I’m sure it’s small things, but try to be specific about the triggers.

talk to him about it.
tell him everything thats on your mind. The only way to keep a relationship going is by talking. you both need to know whats on eachothers minds. you know what i mean jelly bean? sorry im not much help.
i wish you the best. (:

honestly, i dont see how you could be in a relationship with him then. If he wont take the time to actually try to work things out, is he worth it? and I know thats the last think you want to hear. but its just something to think about..

just get it through his mind that you’re done with his crap. thats what i personally would do. t

I think it’s tricky, because there’s a fine line to be drawn between knowing when it’s the time to really put the work in and make something worthwhile, and when it’s the time to get up and leave. And also it’s worth saying that sometimes breaking up is not what you want to do, but it is what you need, and you have to do it anyway, so don’t let the fact that you love him and want to be with him get in the way of doing what is best for you (and by assosiation, him).

I suppose one way of working out which option you need to take is by looking at him; there’s no point in you putting work in to fix something if he won’t bother. and the key isn’t what he says it’s what he does, i can’t stress that enough. if, over a period of time, you don’t see his actions changing, then regardless of what he says he isn’t putting in the hard work and you should leave him in my opinion.

Oh Emily you are so young and if my boyfriend were doing this to me i would have left him long time ago .Forget this you love him and so on just Finnish with him and start new get interested in work school whatever .. If you were of Age get yourself a Visa a few Dollars and back pack .Go and see the World there are thousand’s of backpackers doing this from all over the World and they love it . don’t become serious just yet .Go enjoy life if i were your Age ,i would…

end it

well i would talk to him about it.. for these kinds of things sometimes the best thins is communication.. it sounds to me like he really respected you and thought the world of you for the first three monhts.. im not saying he doesnt anymore.. but i would talk to him about it and tell him you dont like to fight with him and that you miss the way he treated you when you first started things and you miss the respect he gave you.. on the other hand you could have moved really fast really soon…. im a guy and im DEEPLY in love with my girlfriend and we fell for each other very early as you did.. we havent fought yet.. and its just about that three month mark.. i respect and adore more than words can exlpain and i dont ever see myself losing that… just talk to him and things might get better..