life help: I just realised why i have such hang ups in life i just admitted it to myself and its taken me over twenty years. - Help.com

Learn to appreciate everyone as unique, and don’t exalt one attribute above another. So, they comment about your sisters appearance. They probably won’t in another forty years. Outward beauty fades, but you can work on inward beauty on yourself and be thankful you have your sister. Don’t be insecure and if your boyfriend is being intrigued by your sister then he is not for you. Look at each part truthfully for what it’s real worth is. It is great testing ground for you to find true love both in your heart for your sister and your mate.

Every woman struggles with competition like your sister. She may not be related to us, but she is in the restaurant where we eat, she is at the gym, she is everywhere. THe thing is that there are plenty of men out there who don’t want that, they may still drool or remark about her, but she takes FOREVER to get ready, she always has other guys checking her out and she might be so in love with herself that she forgets about her date. I’m not suggesting that your sister is like that but what I am saying is that we ALL have flaws including your sister.
Embrace who you are, and you might find that your sister is jealous of you. You do not have a job that requires you to be beautiful. I know it sounds funny but if she gets a scar or gains too much weight she is out of a job, that seems stressful to me…. if I had to maintain my weight like she does I’d be out of job after job….
You are a good person and you have a guy who cares about you focus on that. Your sister may not love her job; remember that she sells an image for a living, and that image may be something she hates. Talk to her about it and see what she says. She is your sister don’t hate her for being who she is, but love yourself more for being who you are.

On the other hand it would be hard to be that beautiful too. Yes alot of men would want to date you, but for most of them you would just be a statis symbol. If you met a man you really love the relationship can be very hard. Most men will get jealous of the other men looking at you all the time. They would have a harder time trusting you because you are so pretty. I met a woman once that was very pretty but over weight. She said she put on the weight because when she was thin her husband was always jealous and not trusting her when she was out of his sight. Now he was not jealous and they had a happier marriage. Of course even your boyfriends are going to notice your sisters beauty, that doesn’t mean they would rather be with her. Just like if you saw a really hot guy you would notice, but you would not want to break up with your boyfriend to be with him. In a way you have it easier. You will be accepted for who you are. And women won’t hate you for the way you look.