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I wish I had a friend.
I know that sounds really stupid, but I’m in this place in my life where I really don’t have any friends or anyone to talk to- I’m a single mom, and I’m 24 years old. I had friends before I had my daughter, but now they don’t really want to hang out because I changed my lifestyle- I don’t party, or stay up late, or go drinking. I became responsible, and when I did all my friends just slowly drifted out of my life. They still call and say what’s up, but they never want to hang out and do stuff I feel comfortable doing… like going out to eat or something. I just feel so lonesome. I live in a really small community so there aren’t any single mom groups or anything to get involved in. My daughter isn’t old enough for school yet, so I haven’t met many other moms. The ones I have met seem to be more interested in developing couple friendships- they don’t want to hang out with just me. I go to a university here, but just like my friends, most college students are interested in partying. I don’t belong to a church or anything, and my family is there for me but I don’t feel like I can really talk to them. I know it is really stupid, but I can’t help feeling depressed about being so alone.
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im sorry, i wish you could have the chance to know people like me. im 19 do not drink, smoke, party one of my best friend is a single mother. i want you to know your not alone people want to be there for you. i do.
i’ll talk to you, lol
i know exactly what it’s like to stuck in a small town with no friends,
where do you work? m aybe there’s someone around there
6783828175 text me if you can=/
I work as a private tutor, so I don’t really have any coworkers… And I am kind of off-beat- I don’t know how else to explain it. It’s hard for me to make friends. I’m kind of weird. I’m not antisocial or anything, I’m just self conscious. I know it’s stupid, but it really hurts that all my friends just kind of dropped me when I had a kid because I was “no fun anymore.” It really messed with me. I’m glad to know that I’m not alone.. there are other people out there who don’t drink, and other people out there stuck in little bitty towns with not a lot going on in them. It is still hard though.
If you want, I can be here to talk to you.
I went through the same thing when I started Junior High.
Sometimes, even talking to someone online can ease your pain.
If you make an account, I’ll talk to you whenever I go online.
I can’t really text, its too expensive! Single moms don’t have money either! lol but I have msn messenger?
lol, i’ve been there too,
kids can be cruel like that. but it’s good you chose responsibility over being a moronic teenager, :)
i can talk to you on MSn, h/o i’ll give you my screenname
I’m an idiot, what does h/o mean?
lol it means hold on.
my MSN is seetherulez at gmail dot com
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oh haha that’s why you wrote it like that.
lol yea it does that
mine is thelochjessmonster at hotmail dot com
I know exactly what you mean - I used to have friends too. I used to go to dinner parties, formal teas, and so many other fun things with friends… but we moved to another state - the state i grew up in - but i have no friends. my high school best friend lives near by, i reached out to her but she has a busy life and lots of friends - she doesn’t have time for me (i hope it’s just time…). i have three sisters - you’d think they would be ‘built-in’ friends but not so. one is so selfish that i just can’t be more than family with her..and the youngest is still young… but there is one that is now my friend now that she is expecting a baby.
my daughter is in school and i have tried to meet other mothers, but most everyone around here has lived here their entire lives and have all the friends they need… that sounds odd, but they all have friends to walk with, friends to go out to dinner with, friends to do this or that…
of course, i have considered that maybe i’m just not that interesting. perhaps, but i have traveled extensively, i’m well read, i take classes, my big downfall is small talk… i’m not good at it. i’ve even read books on it.
i hate where we live. i have to learn to like it. but i just pray for a good christian friend. i have prayed this prayer foro so long - i know one day God will grant me this…
I suppose we all have our special gifts in life, and i love my husband - he tries so hard to do things that i want to do - i think he knows how lonely i feel, but he doesn’t say so. i take comfort in my books…
I hope everyone who is lonely can find something to hold on to until they find a true friend.
Keep your mind on your daughter. I know it is hard I was there once too! Just know that to your daughter you are the most important person alive. You are receiving the kind of love from your daughter that people only dream of. Don’t despair….
I am happy to know that people like u at your age could be that responsible and courageous enough to underlook your friends attribute to life again. I admire your courage alots and wish to be even more courageous.from today henceforth i wish that you consider me as a good friend u can relire on. extends my warm regards to your beloved daughter.
I HAVE NO FRIENDS =[
Sometimes we have to just look inside ourselves…I am so lonely for a real true friend, but I am keeping busy with family duties. Currently, I’m taking classes, working on my RN - my daughter is in Girl Scouts, pageant, and Tap dancing - and cheerleading, of which I am the coach (I hoped the other moms would become friends…I’m always hopeful… but they all have friends. The hardest thing, for me, I think is that as we get older it’s more difficult to find a real friend. Everyone has a best friend..that they have had for years…)
Anyway, between getting ready for pageants (so much work), studying, keeping up the house, and making time for my husband…i’m busy. If I think about it for any length of time - I break down (like now) - but I know this too shall pass…
I pray that everyone out there who wants a friend, would find one really good one! If we were to all meet, I wonder if we’d all be friends? I would like to think so..
I feel the same way. Except I am 21 and no kids. I had a close group of friends in high school but blew them off when I met my boyfriend. I have been with my boyfriend now for 4 years, but talk to my hs friends once in a blue moon. My boyfriend has plenty of friends. All I’m asking for is just one best friend who is not my boyfriend. :/
I wish I had one true friend. Nobody will talk to me. nobody to tell my secrets to, nobody to go places with. My family dont care about me, my co workers are full of themselves. Nobody understands. I cant do this anymore. I dont care anymore. I wanna disappear and nobody will find me. I cant keep crying anymore. It hurts so bad. I dont know what to do. :(
I know how incredibly painful loneliness is, and I honestly understand wanting to disappear… I wanted that same thing for so long, planned it out… but please know there is always hope, even when it seems hopeless.
First, I talked to my doctor and for the first time I admitted (albeit “off the record”) how bad it was. And I found that helping others helps get beyond ourselves. One thing I have learned no matter how bad I thought u had - there is someone worse off. Visit/volunteer at a nursing home…there are people there who get no visitors, have no one to talk to… they are often filled with wisdom and stories… you may gain some perspective and hope…
I totally understand; I have no close friends left alive and my only sibling passed in 2007. It is very lonely; at work I am the oldest in the department and am bullied by the younger employees who exclude me. I have ADD, am hard of hearing–not exactly a beautiful person. I try to be nice to people but it seems that everyone I know has a social network already in place and therefore does not need me nor wish to develop one with me. It is very sad and lonely. No one knows how much it hurts to be so alone day after day after day. No one to talk to. Not ever!
I know this post was over a year ago but i find myself having the same problems i moved out of the town i grew up in right after hs and when i moved back to this town all the friends i had even ones i have known all my life kinda went their different ways i know what its like to not have any good friends specially ones with kids i know what its like to not have anyone to talk to except my kids really is a lonely life..
it seems like lots of people have the same problem. i am 39.. my life is full.. but i have no “friends” in my meaning of the word.. what a true friend is.. i know lots of people sometimes i have lunch here or there with a girlfriend.. and of course there is fb and there are tons of “friends” there.. but you know a FRIEND.. i have NONE.. 2 kids. lots of sports im all over.. but its definately missing.. and i can be very very lonely at times… it is very important to have a friend.. so those that have.. count yourself blessed.. and dont ever lose that.. those that dont.. how do we get one? especially this late in life.. i feel destined to be lonely.. and being alone and being lonely are very different things.. im surrounded by people..but im very lonely…. :(
Awww if anyone ever should need a friend you found me. I’m the Floatingpoet. I’m a true friend to everyone. Google “floatingpoet” All I ask of my friends is laughter. I love all and have a great day! Keep your good energy!
I am a older woman with no friends and no one to really talk to, to help me come to my senses about how to deal with being alone. I am a loner, but I don’t want to be that person any more and I don’t know how to change this about myself. I have been in a on again, off again relationship for 20 years that I know is unhealthy but I don’t know how to let him go, I feel that there is on one else for me. I want to date again but don’t know how. Going to bars, clubs and other places like that is not my thing any longer. I want to meet with people so I can come out of this depressive shell I put myself in. Does anyone have any advice?
i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> u can add me on msn so we can talk as to be honest i have the same prob to u and i feel lonley by the way im man 26 ys old
I know the feeling. My best friend was my wife and she died March 2, 2012 We were what you would call childhood sweet hearts. We were married for 36 years and dated for 4. We had 5 children but they have their own lives. It gets so lonesome sometimes. I sit in my living room and watch TV all day. I just don’t want to do anything any more. I feel like I’m in a prison and i cant get out.
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