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was very in love with someone.

Together for 5 yrs, living together for about 4. I moved countries for him, lived with his parents. He left me twice, cheated on me once, suffered from mild depression. Afterwards he proposed, but I felt so insecure about his lack of stability and committment that I asked for some time. This happened just over a year ago, now he is married to someone he met 6-8 months previously and about to become a father.
I have a new boyfriend who is a much better match, I am mostly happy, being naturally strong, positive and full of life, but some days the feelings of loss and sadness still drag me down. I realise he moved on with such ease and after all the promises of eternal love, this kills me.
On the other hand, I too have a new partner, which I love, but the sadness is still there. Why? I want to be rid of it. Any advice?

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Abba Zabba offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

You were together for a long time so you are bound to feel sad at times reflecting on what you had. All it takes is time, however a crappy answer that may be. They say that for however many years you were with someone, it takes that many in months to get over him. This could be true. You were with him for five years, so give it five months and if you still find yourself sad about it, then be sad. Eventually time will heal your wounds.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

Lets see, Someone told me it takes 1.5x the length of time to get over someone, so you have 7.5 years until …yeah.
Otherwise you’ll need to mentally overpower yourself by thinking optimistic thoughts whenever you feel down because of that. Be Glad with what you have, stand up, and go do something and quit thinking about it :)

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

Okay, so maybe pepsi knows about it better than I do; lol.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (28 minutes after post)

I think you will always remember the guy and feel sad that he is gone from your life. I feel this way about my first girlfriend. We were together 5 years and I still feel sad when I think about her even though we weren’t that happy together.
Miss my parents a lot and they’ve been dead almost 10 years. Don’t worry about it.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (2 weeks, 2 days after post)

Im the same.even tho he treated me loke **** some days and it was like walking on egg shells , we really had good times , tho through drink we would land up in a row.the weekend we had a row he met a girl in the pub when i was there , she wouldnt let him goe , and now he is with her , even tho i no he treats her the same . he ******* about me top her and she obviously beleioved every thing he said , but through people she has realised i was tellig the truth ,i still think how could he do that and just carry on like he didnt no me? . it does hurt and i am with sum one who loves me to bits but i still wonder and get upset about how some one can just walk away like that , and cut there feelings dead.

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