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Increase your fruit and veggie intake. Ask your mom to buy some. Exercise. Take ups some sort of sport or active hobby.

Do you have health insurance? Doctors and nutritionists can be really helpful. Get your heart checked to make sure you’re ok to exercise. GEt your blood checked to make sure there are no conditions that might make it harder for you to lose weight.

Unfortunately, the main thing is to be patient. If you hurry yourself, you won’t be able to stick to anything you try. I know it’s really hard, but trust me, it’s the only thing that works. Slow change is real change.

Change your routine but do it gradually. If you try to do too many things at once, you’ll burn out and crash. Try one thing at a time, like drinking more water or switching to diet soda or taking a walk every day. Keep the changes you like, leave asside the ones you don’t. Chances are there will be enough activities and enough healthy foods that you actually enjoy that you don’t have to torture yourself with anything you don’t.

Remember that you can’t expect to see results right away, and by right away I mean the first few MONTHS. The human body takes a long time to figure out that it should be burning fat, and it’ll go through all kinds of changes before it will burn fat. You have to be patient and consistent. It’s like training a dog. The dog doesn’t know what you want, but it wants to please you. You have to show it over and over again that it’s time to burn fat. If you treat it badly, it won’t learn, it’ll just get confused and depressed. No starving yourself. No binge-exercising. Your goal should be good, small, frequent meals that give you energy for light, enjoyable exercise.

I bang this gong a lot, but therapy can also be a big help. A big reason that we freak out and try to change too fast or exhaust ourselves on a huge binge workout and then eat a ton of junk food is because we’re not really doing it for ourselves but to try and silence the mean little voices that tell us we’re not good enough.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s good and noble to want to take control of your body weight, but you have to do it for yourself, not for the world. If you don’t think that you’re good enough just because you’re heavy, you won’t think you’re good enough when you’re skinny, either. When you vow to love yourself no matter what, it’s a lot easier to be gentle with yourself in a way that helps you find good healthy long-term weight management.