I have an emotional problem.

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I have an emotional problem.

I have had two failed relationships in my past. There is a new relationship I want to step into but I am not at all feeling sure about taking the first step of asking the girl out for just a walk or talk. I have asked related questions in help.com but not feeling any better. Now, that girl has had failed relationships too and was deeply hurt in the last one. When I am not confident about myself, I don’t think it is fair to pursue her. I like her a lot but I feel it is not fair to ask her to go out with me unless I feel secure and confident of myself. She is the sweetest person I have met and she certainly deserves a confident and caring person who can provide her all the happiness in the world to compensate for the tough times she has gone through. The guy I am right now is certainly not a confident guy.

I am not sure why I don’t feel confident. May be, it is because she has explicitly mentioned once that she doesn’t want to be in another relationship. Or may be, I am not the tall handsome hunk kind of guy, the kind of guys she has been friends with and had relationships with.

Gradually, I am losing interest in everything. In my work because she sits right beside me. It feels bad to know that she sits right beside me and I care for her and I like her but I can’t have her as my girlfriend. I am losing interest at home as I am constantly thinking of her. I don’t have a friend I can talk to about this. I am not even able to understand if it is just a crush or I really do like her. Please help. I really need help. Can someone be my friend and help me out of this situation please?

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

May be I don’t have self esteem and I fear I would feel terrible if she does not like me enough to be my girlfriend. I know she likes me because we argue over silly things all the time just to have fun. But you know, deciding to be a girlfriend is a big decision for her after two failed relationships one of which hurt her a lot.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (29 minutes after post)

At the moment you’re sitting on the fence…not really doing anything to help the situation.
Instead of sitting thinking about it, maybe you should just go for it and ask her out.
Be confident about it!

She doesn’t want another bad relationship, so why don’t you break that pattern and be the best boyfriend EVER. :)

Even if you just become very good friends, that is a start. Things will probably progress.

But if you just leave it, and worry yourself over it, nothing will happen. Sometimes you’ve just got to be spontaneous, and courageous. Go for it.

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