He likes me, but doesn’t want a relationship? - Help.com

What I meant by the four year age gap concern is the differing level of sexual experiences.

I have morals, I respect myself, I dated a guy for a year who never even tried to put his hands on me because he respected me, and that’s what I’m used to.

Now this guy comes along, and all of the sudden, I have someone attempting to do these things with me because it’s what he’s used to.

Compared to an eighteen year old, someone who’s twenty-two generally has a whole different world of experiences under their belt.

Why, Pongo? Why won’t you date her?

I just want to know, because I feel not good enough, and it really ******* hurts falling asleep in his arms wondering whether or not I’m only here until he finds someone who does give him the same butterflies in his stomach that he gives me in mine.

I’m 18, he’s 22.

He is a very caring guy. It wasn’t until recently that he started to try having a sexual relationship with me, and we’ve lived together/slept in the same bed for almost three months now.

I just…I’m not willing to do that. Is it that hard to commit?

If it is that hard, is it because he’s using me?

I mean, if there’s one thing I learned, it’s that a guy will not go out of his way to do these things unless he a.)REALLY wants sex and is extremely patient, or b.) returns the girls feelings.

I’ve been thinking about that, actually. I asked one of my good friends who is originally from London what their view on a relationship is, and she said that mostly, if they like someone enough to consider a relationship with them, they will try and have sex with that person.

Unfortunately, I prefer to stand by my American view of a relationship, and considering he’s been here for three years and is now a citizen, I think he should learn.

Don’t worry. I’m still able to think rationally about the situation, and I don’t plan on losing it to him just to be in a relationship. I like him, but not to the point where it makes me blind.

Lmao.

Bring a boyfriend home and then serenade him that song? :P

sorry sounds to me he will shag you then leave you.the reason why hes so close and open cuz u both live together. n cuz of that i suppose he expects like a couple, sex is a yes yes. why have sex with anyother wen theres the one u live with? sorry my bets is play it good, cuz from wat i learnt those who want to be”single” yet have “someone” are realy gonna end up as **** buddies. he works 50 plus hours? how the hell r u gonna go out n date him?trust me u all not only deserve some loving/affection but to be taken out. I was a stupidly naive idiot who was convinced that the ex would keep his promises.and so after 1 year and 5 turns out i was used all cuz in my head i got the idea he would fall for me. BUT NO he wanted to be single yet still have sex with me with “no commitment” e.g phoning you up?visiting you?taking you out?u knw what a couple do to get to know eachother.i relised he changed to wat stated above after i agve my virginity.before that he was proper giving me atention.

so love its up u to really.my exs mind :why pay for sex or have random sex when u can have it for free n someone whos falling for you which means theyll agree to do anything

I also have almost the same problem, and I don’t know what to do.
we have known each other for more than half year. I told him that I like him, and he also said he likes me too, but don’t want to be in a relationship at least for now. He wants to think about what he wants to do with his life or something….
He is so nice to me, respects me, and always there for me when I am down….
and my feeling toward him grows everyday but at the same time I an suffering to wait. I am worried he doesn’t like me anymore or he might like somebody else.
I can’t even sleep at night (I know it sounds stupid!!! but can’t help)
Its sad….. so you wrote this 2 month ago…. so what happened now??

All of you ladies need to quit worrying about some guy. If he doesnt want a relationship or you, then drop him and leave. No man has any right to make you feel inadequate. And there is nothing wrong with a fun buddy, but you have to go into it knowing there is nothing more. At 18 you should be worrying about other stuff other than some guy. And if anything use him until you find someone else.

I have been dating this guy for 7 months now. I really like him and I’m a virgin. I’m 18 and he’s 25.he claims he’s not ready to be in a relationship right now. He says eventually he will be. I don’t know what to do because i really like him and wanna be with him. I’m worried I might be falling in love with him. He seems to be very honest with me. I have met his family as even slept over his house a few times. I won’t give myself to him unless we’re committed. What should I do? Should I walk away? I don’t mind waiting. But what if I’m waiting for something that is never going to happen. I feel like his mom likes me a lot too because she invited me over for thanksgiving. I met all of his immediate family even his grandmother.

Oh and he also has slept with another women and told me it was just sex. He claims he doesn’t want to date anyone else other than me. I asked him if he had the opportunity to sleep with another women again would he take it and he told me yes. He says he just wants to take things slow until and if he’s ready. But when I’m with him I just feel as though I might be in love with him already. We talk on the phone everyday and see each other atleast once or twice a week because he works long hours at work and I’m in school. I know he doesn’t love me. But he has dating someone for a year and half who he loved but she didn’t wanna be with him and she went back to her ex. I’m not sure if he really doesn’t love me or he’s trying to act like he doesn’t.