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Find out what he’s interested in. Find something going on in your city. Say you want to go. Maybe he’ll turn it into a date.

Maybe get your friend who knows him to have another smaller gathering so you can talk more. After you start to warm up to each other go to someplace that you both havve interest in.

hi sandy! best I can say is find some common interests things you could both feesably enjoy together. also might want to find out if he is allready actively seeing someone or not. (nothing ruines hopes for a date quite like the message “I think you’re great, my significant other thinks your cool too” (dont ask)

but yeah focus on common interests, and if he doesnt put 2+2 together real well you might want to mention that certain common interests would be more fun if shared.

Do call after a first date. Or send an email. It’s only good manners to express your appreciation for a guy taking you out. It also lets him know that he’s not wasting his time. What you don’t want to do is pressure him for another date or seem clingy or call a lot. And don’t spend hours yapping on the phone. Save what you have to say for face-to-face.

Hello users,Im Sandy wrote:
aha well I know he is single, but I must agree, a message like that is definitly a mood killer. Do you have any things I should avoid doing? more specific things such as not calling after the first date, or something?

that kinda depends on how the first date goes.. its been long standing culture that that the guy will call you after the first date if things went well, I dont know how you feel about tradition and such, but I see no reason not to let him know if you had a good time after the first date with a phone call, if your worried about seeming like your throwing yourself at him you could always wait to call till sometime in the afternoon or evening. and if hes not available just keep the message simple ” hi just called to say I had a great time last night. thanks for the great evening” (simple note here you might want to end that message with a “talk to you later” kind of statement instead of just goodbye it implies that future calls or dates would be welcome without sounding needy. just my own thoughts

linuxya wrote:
Do call after a first date. Or send an email. It’s only good manners to express your appreciation for a guy taking you out. It also lets him know that he’s not wasting his time. What you don’t want to do is pressure him for another date or seem clingy or call a lot. And don’t spend hours yapping on the phone. Save what you have to say for face-to-face.

NO NO NO NO NO NO.

You are NOT supposed to do that. You can’t worry about “good” manners because whether or not you have good intentions, any man who is JUST beginning to get into a girl will be intimidated at the prospect of her initiating ANYTHING - whether she is just being polite, or she is getting clingy - they will interpret it as the latter. Male biology, my friends. They must feel the anxiety - will she pick up the phone when I call her for the second date?

Amethysteria wrote:
[quote linuxya]
You are NOT supposed to do that. You can’t worry about “good” manners because whether or not you have good intentions, any man who is JUST beginning to get into a girl will be intimidated at the prospect of her initiating ANYTHING - whether she is just being polite, or she is getting clingy - they will interpret it as the latter. Male biology, my friends. They must feel the anxiety - will she pick up the phone when I call her for the second date?

Intimidated? Please. Any guy intimated by a “thankyou” is a pathetic worm.

If the only way for a girl to keep a guy interested is to play games, she must be a very dull and self-absorbed person. A girl with poor manners who doesn’t show any interest after the first date isn’t worth wasting any more time on. Games now means games later.