friends help: ok so my friends are getting married and a good friend dropped out of being a groomsmen

mz.mo

ok so my friends are getting married and a good friend dropped out of being a groomsmen

There are 4 of us coming back(to where we went to college) at least 9 hours to be in this wedding… and one of the groomsmen(a very good friend of everyone) said he cant come or be in the wedding anymore because his fantasy football draft is that day!!!?? WTF and he lives 20 mins away…. but the bride asked me to talk to him…. what the heck should i say? I think he’s being really rude and not a very good friend. he said he would be in the wedding 6 months ago… they already ordered his tux for him…..ideas? Thoughts?

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suttyon 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (4 minutes after post)

May sound silly but is he in love with the bride?

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Get somebody else and tell that friend to kiss off for any future events. What a sucky friend you have!

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Fuzzy Pepper 92 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (7 minutes after post)

EXTREMELY rude. NOT a good friend.

Sometimes, there are moments in life when you know who your true friends are. The bride and groom just found out that someone who they THOUGHT was a true friend ISN’T.

They need to hustle and make arrangements for someone else to be a groomsman. They need to try to not let it ruin their wedding. They need to be firm with him if, after they have found another groomsman, he wants to “be part of it” again and make sure that they say that it’s too late.

HOWEVER: one word of caution: sometimes ppl speak/act hastily. Sometimes what someone is trying to say is not clear for whatever reason….The bride or groom needs to contact the groomsman and just RECONFIRM that there is NO WAY he can be in the wedding. Once that is confirmed, they need to move on.

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mz.mo 22 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (7 minutes after post)

suttyon wrote:
May sound silly but is he in love with the bride?

no i am like 99% sure he’s not

littlenick wrote:
Get somebody else and tell that friend to kiss off for any future events. What a sucky friend you have!

but the thing is this is sooo out of character for him …. he usually is the type that is there not matter what… so true to his word … i just have no clue whats going on with him

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littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Well, maybe he’s showing his true colors now. So from now on expect that from him and don’t count on him.

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Anonymous #
4 months ago (9 minutes after post)

i guess my question is should I call him like she asked or say that they need to handle it… i dont need to add on any added stress

mz.mo 22 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (10 minutes after post)

opps that last one was me

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Fuzzy Pepper 92 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (11 minutes after post)

If you told them that you will call, you need to keep YOUR word.

Why are you now posting anon?? It’s too late :)

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Dr. Ralph 79 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (11 minutes after post)

I think he should make a list of the players he wants and in what order and just let someone else do his draft for him. He is being a jerk but I know some people that live for Fantasy Football…

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mz.mo 22 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (12 minutes after post)

lol i dont know how to turn off that option i forgot to hit the little box at the bottom lol :)

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mz.mo 22 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (13 minutes after post)

well she e-mailed me and asked me too i havent said yes yet thats why am asking for advice :)

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mz.mo 22 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Dr. Ralph wrote:
I think he should make a list of the players he wants and in what order and just let someone else do his draft for him. He is being a jerk but I know some people that live for Fantasy Football…

the ironic part is that 3 other people involved in the wedding are doing just that…. but according to the bride/groom he wont hear of letting anyone help with his team…..i’m getting more angry just thinking about it and its not even my wedding

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suttyon 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Mz.mo you need to talk to him !

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mz.mo 22 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (21 minutes after post)

k i will do my best I just hope he listens to reason

thanks guys i just hate confrontation, it makes me really nervous

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Dr. Ralph 79 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (35 minutes after post)

What’s up that they had to have their wedding on draft day anyways? Sounds like they should punt and move the wedding a day. Not really…

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mz.mo 22 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (39 minutes after post)

lol well its the only weekend they could have it before the brides sis gets shipped over to Iraq

but you did make me giggle thanks

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Fuzzy Pepper 92 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (42 minutes after post)

Awwww that’s hard, then…..the groomsman needs to be able to respect the bride’s wishes, AS WELL AS the soldier in the family.

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mz.mo 22 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (46 minutes after post)

yeah i”m gonna call him this weekend and just try to talk some sense into him….. maybe he doesn’t understand the consequences of doing this on his friendships

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