I’m ambivalent about breaking up [input needed].

ƒ(x)=healberry³

I’m ambivalent about breaking up [input needed].

To describe the girlfriend: immature, holds completely different ideas of our future, is the exact opposite of me, lacks ambition in life, seems indifferent to talking to me sometimes, has lied to me before and because of this does not have my respect or trust, clashes frequently with me about everything since we are exact opposites, and places her friends at a higher priority than me.

Yet, she’s the light of life, the only person I can turn to when I need help, the one that seems to care the most out of everyone. She’s beautiful and amazing because she puts up with my insecurities and clinginess.

Recently, I have started to obtain new friends [I didn’t have any before]. I’m starting to believe the only reason I was with her was so that I could feel validated as a person and capable of being loved. I’m slowly starting to accept myself in all ways, and some of the novelty of the relationship has worn off.

At times I could see myself practically marrying her, other days I question the entire relationship. I feel bad after, but then think to myself, “Am I really feeling this way, or am I just deluding myself so I won’t feel guilty afterwards?” I’ve tried communicating everything to her, but it usually just ends up with one or both of us feeling depressed and/or angry. Then we postpone the discussion and just say we’ll work on it, which never happens.

Also, something to note is that this started out as a high school relationship. I’m going to attend college in a month, but there’s a chance I may never have the full college experience and/or travel abroad like I plan to because she may be reluctant to let me go.

Any and all input is appreciated.

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Anonymous #
4 months ago (15 minutes after post)

why not break up with her, you seem to have a clear view of the pros. and cons. so why not take a break, you already apreciate yourself more, she has helped youbecome stronger, and you two have already had experiences together, what if that was the end of the road, you sound like your still young, so enjoy life trust me there is still so much for you to experience

edmurray5 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Mixed feelings about a relationship is not a good thing.
Go to college and see how that works out for you.
If you can’t trust one another than things will never work.
But people change, so there is hope.

THE INTERNET 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (35 minutes after post)

I agree, it is unfortunate but it seems like a time for a break.
You are capable of having friends, I have talked to you enough to validate that you are interesting enough and you have enough common interests to make friends.
In the end, you should make the choices needed in order to further yourself as far as possible, she seems to be holding you back.
It is of course your choice to do that or not, but I suggest it.
I don’t like suggesting things that terminate relationships, but it seems to be important to do so in order to progress yourself, not that you have to, it’s just that progression is nice.

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that.sk8r 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (46 minutes after post)

that is very unfortunate. well i would say leave her and find someone better who treats u better.

Rocco. 13 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

Take a break from her. See different people or just be single for a while. Or both. Then go back for a little bit and see if she is right for you.

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Max 169 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (7 hours, 36 minutes after post)

We are our worst enemy:) She’s not the issue, your focus or confusion may be. I like to think is good for everybody to be independent, but the world would be a lonely place without couples or friends. I guess an end goal may help and being honest to one’s self. Some of luckiest people don’t feel they are:)

She has a trust issue….and is she right?
Some go to college to learn, some go to get away. You’re smart, but are you self disciplined?

Rocco has the right idea.

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