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Guys ask for phone numbers, then don’t call: Why?

Twice in the past seven months, two different guys (one in Jan. and one in June) have asked for my phone number after casually chatting on several different occasions. I gave both guys my number…then I never heard from them again. I wasn’t expecting dates or even anything other than another casual chat, so I’m not upset–I’m just wondering why the guys never called. If they were interested enough to ask for my number, why didn’t they make use of it and call me? Can’t stress enough that I’m not feeling slighted or insecure…just looking for some opinions.

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pink sparkle 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (27 minutes after post)

Maybe they asked for your number cause they just think that it is customary to ask for their dats number. It’s like getting a kiss at the end of the date. Somehow, people are compelled to kiss their date just cause most are doing it. Same goes with asking for phone numbers.

If they didn’t call, it’s their loss. There’s nothing wrong with you though there might be something wrong with the guys.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

HAAAAY ok so yeah, that’s happened to me too.
But after casually running into one of those guys and it resulting in him being my boyfriend, it kind of came up. It turns out he was interested when he’d asked for the number, but was always too insecure about whether or not I was too and WANTED him to call. After too much time had passed worrying about it, he felt like he missed his shot. I thought it was cute, but that’s just me.

My advice, sounds like you want the ball in your court. YOU ask for the number next time…the USE it!

Good luck :)

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tricky 41 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (13 hours, 10 minutes after post)

- just to see if they can get your phone number, like a game, if they get ur phone number they will win

- sensation of still being a player and to show if they can play the game

- always be on the safe side and have a girls number while you are talking with her..

- they are drunk :P

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pink sparkle 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (1 day, 19 hours after post)

Maybe the next time around, when some guy you like asks for your number, give a hint that you want him to call. Tell him “Hear from you soon..” or some similar line.

You could write it in paper with a line that says “Call me.”

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tricky 41 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

pink sparkle wrote:
Maybe the next time around, when some guy you like asks for your number, give a hint that you want him to call. Tell him “Hear from you soon..” or some similar line.

You could write it in paper with a line that says “Call me.”

that’s called desperate :P
if he really like you he will call back, no worries :)

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pink sparkle 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (2 days after post)

tricky wrote:

pink sparkle wrote:
Maybe the next time around, when some guy you like asks for your number, give a hint that you want him to call. Tell him “Hear from you soon..” or some similar line.

You could write it in paper with a line that says “Call me.”

that’s called desperate :P
if he really like you he will call back, no worries :)

I think it’s an encouragement to the guy to boost his confidence.

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tricky 41 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (2 days, 1 hour after post)

pink sparkle wrote:

tricky wrote:

pink sparkle wrote:
Maybe the next time around, when some guy you like asks for your number, give a hint that you want him to call. Tell him “Hear from you soon..” or some similar line.

You could write it in paper with a line that says “Call me.”

that’s called desperate :P
if he really like you he will call back, no worries :)

I think it’s an encouragement to the guy to boost his confidence.

ok got ur point ^_^

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ginger7 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week after post)

This is something I have mixed feelings about, because it was the first time I was ever approached by another woman. But it’s the same situation of someone seeming interested, but not following up.
I was at a sort of casual concert event and a woman came over and complimented me, and chatted a little. Then she said, “Can I call you sometime for coffee when I’m in the area?” I gave her a business card for my little shop that has my email on it. She smiled at me again when she was leaving. I’m now friends with a friend of hers on Facebook who was at the event and is a fan of the same singer, and she said how her friend had mentioned me being a cute girl she met and exchanged info with.
It’s been a month and I haven’t heard from the woman who talked to me. I was kind of scared of hearing from another woman, but also curious and at least wanting to be friends, so now I feel disappointed and rejected because she seemed like a cool person.
Would it be weird or desperate if I told her friend on Facebook to say hi to her for me and then wait and see if she remembers me?
Should I just add her as a friend and say hi myself? I get self-conscious about people seeing my Facebook unless we know each other better. Was it rude of me to give her my website and email instead of my number, or do you think she didn’t like my shop? Should I just be flattered that she approached me and forget about it?

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