Emotional Help help: I Am obbsessed with someone from my past who has moved on, but for some reason i cant let it go.. - Help.com

ni wrote:
You have to move on.

Good luck.

I Don’t Know How To Anymore?
I Don’t Think About Her Most Of The Time, but the things that remind me of her and what they put me through drive me crazy…

if you love the person, then you will let them find happiness. they can not find happiness if you try to hold them back. if you love that person so much then let them go. i think you hate them because you are jealous. no one person is better than anyone else. we are all good at some things and bad at others. we are all equal.(no one looks better or worse.we are just different.) so just because that person has found someone else dont let it make you feel like you are not as good as them. you should find someone who loves you back the same way that you love them. You cannot make someone love you. you will only cause grief by intervening. just leave it be. and find your own happiness.

he is still with me, he told me although he liked them he loved me more than anything. for months things didnt work out and we borke up because i couldn’t trust him but he emotionally bribed me bk with him and i love every moment with him, i wish i could let him go because i feel completely unworthy of being with him at times i have very low self esteem becuase of the whole situation because after a year of being together and he told me he was in love with me he later told me he liked this girl back. honestly i was completely humilated,

(sorry bout the long reply)

you have to focus on new things…start gym meet new people.
play a sport

i actually used to do boxing which really helped me but i have dodgy hips :/ i miss it so much though. thankyou for your advice :)

look if you have a boyfriend and he says he likes someone else. get rid of them. you have low self esteem because you sometimes feel second best to your boyfriend. it is his fault that you feel bad. staying with him will only hurt you more. dont forget that if someone loves you, then they will not hurt you. find someone who loves you sweetie

and i bet you don’t have doggie hips at all, I bet your fine :) everyone has something that they dont like on their own bodies. I dont like my spots and my pshorisis but hey, it doesn’t matter. we should feel lucky for the bodies we have. have you ever seen the tree man? he will make you appriciate your body. if you see him you will feel very lucky indeed. but hey your body is your body and it doesnt matter what you look like or what others think. its the person inside that counts. I bet you just think you have doggie hips but you don’t. it doesnt matter what you look like. but to be beautiful all you have to do is smile. feel happy and smile. if you can do that, then you are beautiful :) look in a mirror and try it. smile and tell yourself that you are beautiful. and mean it, because you are. it is bad actions that make people ugly, not looks.you’ll begin to like yourself more when you see how pretty you really are. and it is not you who is not worthy of the boy, but infact it is he who is not worthy of you. he makes you feel bad. you want someone to make you feel good and to make you feel special.he is not treating you how a boy should. if a boy has a partner they should loe their partner and no one else

yea i know i think about that alot, but i don’t want to give him up becuase i do love him and he has complelty cut the girl out of his life and now he doesnt have any connection with her atall. he eeels so bad about it and constantly blames himself. he feels so bad about the past and has done more than enough to prove to me that he loves me..

I Dont feel like either of them are the problem its me, i can’t seem to let go.
Honestly i have forgiven him as much as i ever will be able to, i dnt get angry at him for the past and i dont blame him…

but for some reason i have changed so much since then.
like i never used to be that jealous but i find myself insanely jealous of more than jus my bf of my best friend too

i WANT to be over it and not care
i ave made such a missive improvment i used to compleltly obbsess about it and she was never out my head
i feel like i could make it but sometims i have bad moments and everything seems to colapse again and i feel like im back at square one…