What’s your story? - Help.com

I needed help finding a friend of mine and I found him through here. It was great!

And I also wanted to display my annoying sense of humor. And, since I am very shy and reclusive, this was the only avenue I had and so far have had to do that.

there’s a surprise on help.com at every turn. You have no idea how shy I am or never will.

If you want to compete, it has to be another day. I know I can beat you, hands down, baby!!!

Have you ever heard of “the front” that people put to cover themselves? Pretending to be confident is my front.

Sometimes I pretend to be shy. I use that as a front. Then I get even shier than that. So there!

Did I win?

Well, sadly, someone depressed that I know found it.
Invited me to a post.
And I stayed.

It was around this time of the year, last year.

this site is addictive!!!

I’ve been here for a year and three months. that’s a long time. I come here at least 1 to 3 hours per day and sometimes at night for at least two hours before I go to sleep. Isn’t that pathetic?

I have no life! :(

Again, Hi, my name is littlenick and I’m a helpoholic!

I was at a low and typed in help… this place is kinnda like that book/movie.. The Beach.. u just find it, and stay lol

My story. Im a 16 year old girl from England. My parents got divorced - my dad blamed me. My sister and I argue a lot. My mum wont accept me for who I am. I wanted to run away and came here. I got help. But I still had trouble. For about 6 years Ive been a self harmer. For about 6 years I looked and hoped for someone who would understand me. I think one of the best things about finding that person is that they arent a member of this site.I dont mean it in a bad way, but she is the only person who I can actually physically talk to. She is the only one who can hold me tight and tell me she understands, and that everything is ok. And Im pretty sure shes the only one who really loves me.

i was feeling suicidal….. my anxiety was really high and i felt like i was at a dead end.

I came here because I was addicted to dressing up little chihuahua in cute customs and could not stop!

And still cannot stop! Help!

IM here because I want to understand my self better
and to know what is my way

*paper~aeroplane* wrote:
My story. Im a 16 year old girl from England. My parents got divorced - my dad blamed me. My sister and I argue a lot. My mum wont accept me for who I am. I wanted to run away and came here. I got help. But I still had trouble. For about 6 years Ive been a self harmer. For about 6 years I looked and hoped for someone who would understand me. I think one of the best things about finding that person is that they arent a member of this site.I dont mean it in a bad way, but she is the only person who I can actually physically talk to. She is the only one who can hold me tight and tell me she understands, and that everything is ok. And Im pretty sure shes the only one who really loves me.

:(. I love you!!!!

awwwwwwwwwwww i love you toooooo :D
youre like, the funnying lunatic here :D:D:D

best friend died and my father soon follewed then I lost my sis and well got to vent here and it become a good place just read that life isnot just a place to drink and party all the time

it brought me here and many other places in life sober for 3 weeks first time sense birth lerning to live is rough

did you already tell the story did not red everything on blog

you have 80 shouts i have one can not figure out how to make that go away

comparing

I read your story my prayers go out to your family and you

a will at 15 what for what do you have at 15 to write down I realy want to here this one sorry if I am a litle forward

the bank account just put your mom on as power of atturney and write the rest on a peace of paper and sign it all good no money out of pocket for the aturney

I find it by accident. I am glad i did though because it’s hard to ask certain questions even with the closest people you have. This way is easier it’s not so personal.

sorry I go alitle off the deep end some times live love and be good like I try so hard to be

Spread the word, hopefully it may had helped someone.

As the story goes, I came here wanting to jump off a building. I ended up talking others down off the ledge.

I needed computer help…and talked several off the ledge:) I learn here and share.

Like Little Nick I was looking for someone and found them in here after googling the name they use on another site. They no longer participate here but I got addicted.

i was extremely bored at work, so i started typing in random things in the white bar… and typed help and here I am

http://help.com/post/41444-hi-since-t…

this is why i came. I had terrible habits. they made me feel retarded and I used to try to hide myself away. I would go to school and kids would take the mick out of me for twitching and my habits as well as anything else they could judge me on. I used to get into tonnes of fights. and all of the time i just wanted to be alone so no one would see these stupid habits of mine. I can’t help it. they aren’t as bad now. they come and go. mild and stronger or worse. I think it may depend on stress levels sometimes. I just can’t help it. Now though atleast I feel I know what it is that i have instead of not knowing. atleast I can know I am not the only one. its sounds like turretism to me. I’ve read on it though and I don’t really think there’s anything I can do about it. I just have to deal with it. it still makes me feel abit retarded sometimes and makes me cringe. but I know that there’s nothing wrong with me. I’m not stupid because of it. I just have to deal with it. I still sometimes wish it would go away though

because of all of this, I didn’t now what to do so i type help into google one day and found this place.

I came here because i needed something private but could also feel like i had something that would listen and talk to me when i needed it.

I have chronic depression and i have difficulty with stresses, or tough times when i have difficulty controlling my thoughts and feelings, or just have massive collapses in confidence of my abilities and talents.

I suppose to put it simply, this is a site where i can share my thoughts and feelings and not feel too ashamed or intimidated to do so

I was feeling a bit lonely after another family fall out. I thought ‘what do i need right now?’ I came up with the answer ‘help’. So I typed in help.com and it came up with this wonderful site, and i’ve been here since. :)

lol, I was in need of someone to help me or talk to me rather than my family and friends, and I typed help and I found this website haha strange huh? like talking to random people to comfort me makes me feel much better ^^

I came here to get help for someone else, i was getting anoyed with coming up against dead end’s on the internet so in frustration i typed in help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! & this site came up, im on here all the time now & ive met some really great ppl & i now speak to them outside of help. Were free to ask or say anything here that we wouldnt feel comfortable disgussing with ppl in the ‘real world’

last summer i was really in trouble,I didnn’t have an e-mail!!i went 2 yahoo! & i was nearly drown in my tears I searched “HELP!” & this was the result!!!i wrote:god doesn’t love me!” & help.com introduced:www.juses2020.com since i didn’t have e-mail no one else couldn’t help me but that was enough! :)

I was extremely suicidal. To the point where I had the decision made, I had everything planned out… Nobody would even know that it was suicide. It was the perfect scheme, I wasn’t worrying about how people would think of me as selfish or cruel for leaving because nobody would have known that it was me…

Then I met somebody that changed my life. She made me happy and I wanted to be alive. In a week, she destroyed all of my bad habits and made me want to live again. That lasted about 3 or 4 months before the habits started coming back, slowly, and I was starting to feel suicidal again. Nothing like I was before though.
In my depression, I found the paper that I had written everything out on. (I ALWAYS leave a trail of bread crumbs for people to follow. If somebody cared enough, they could figure out anything and everything about me even if I was dead.) I read the paper over and over again. But her image was tattooed in my mind. I hadn’t heard anything from her in about 2 or 3 months, since we basically stopped talking. No reason for it.
She is the remedy to my illness. The longer I don’t talk to her, the worse I get. Every time we talk, my clock is set back again.
I was on the verge again, looking over my paper over and over again. I was getting worse and worse. Then, out of the blue, she sent me a text. I don’t remember what she said, but she definitely has the strange habit(Still does) of texting me when I need it most.
It brought me back to reality and I realized that I needed to get help. I had a broken safe, and I put the paper in there. I needed to stop relying on her so much. I somehow found this site, most likely through Google, and started ranting about this and that. It helped, and I can go longer without hearing from her(Sometimes) but I still rely on her a lot. It’s helped me a lot, and still is, even though I don’t post that often about the bad times anymore. About a year after I met her, the beginning of this year, in fact, I was miserable again. I was on the verge, going crazy. She texted me, ironically, and I found the paper… Then burned it. The ashes still sit there in the safe in the corner of my room.
We’re closer now, and she has no idea what she has done for me, or what she is still doing. Strange, how these things happen, huh?

I needed to find help on my adoption situation. I needed opinions as to whether I should go find my family, or stay home. Ended up reading a LOT of good posts here, grew attached, and am now hooked on Help. Love you guys.

i needed to release my inner child

i was looking for info on ear guages, and found some post on here about them

dare_to_move wrote:

JDC wrote:
i was looking for info on ear guages, and found some post on here about them

Nice :)

yep =)

dare_to_move wrote:
I am looking back at all the replies..they are all so unique and interesting

yep. and just think…….all these diverse reasons brought us here together. lol
im so glad i found this site though

yeah its great.
people can post serious problems, rants, or just random fun things.
its addicting!!!

I simply typed in HELP on the Google search bar, and voila!

kc335 wrote:
I simply typed in HELP on the Google search bar, and voila!

lol
i wonder though, y have so many people typed in “help?”
what were u hoing to find?

dare_to_move wrote:
I think so many people have typed “help” because that is the one thing they need most.

well they came to the right place

i was having some girl trouble on a different account and I litterally just typed in help.com. I don’t remember what made me stay before, but I’m glad it did :)

dare_to_move wrote:

Devil_on_Earth wrote:
I hit rock bottom.
I wasn’t eating.
I was depressed.
I needed help.
My cousin, who is also a user here, told me about this site. I haven’t left since :)

Well, its nice to meet you.

pianomansquiggly~~~ wrote:
i was having some girl trouble on a different account and I litterally just typed in help.com. I don’t remember what made me stay before, but I’m glad it did :)

help.com is such a great place..

I’ve used many sites and so far these is my favorite, I to have problems with depression and have wanted to die so many times. It’s wierd to see that there are so many people out there who have the same kinds of thoughts and feelings as i do. It’s like everyone around me is normal and never experiences what i have and go through on a daily basis. I’m at a norm right now, but when the depression and anxiety gets bad it gets real bad to the point where i would do anything to leave my on mind. I am learning to control some of my thoughts, but at times the demons try to creep back in and i refuse to let em take over again. I’m finally learning to control my thoughts and feelings. Anyhow, this site helps me out because by reading, i’m certainly not alone. If only the people around me understood like some of the people that i’ve corresponded with here. Thanks to everyone!!!

dare_to_move wrote:
The thing I like most about this site is that it shows you that you aren’t alone; that others are in the same situation. :)

so true. no matter what ur situation is, you can find some one on here who already made a post about the exact same thing

dare_to_move wrote:

JDC wrote:

dare_to_move wrote:
The thing I like most about this site is that it shows you that you aren’t alone; that others are in the same situation. :)

so true. no matter what ur situation is, you can find some one on here who already made a post about the exact same thing

So you always have people to talk about whats wrong, no matter what.

i know
gosh i love this site!!

lol

I needed someone to tell me I wasn’t alone, that suicide is wrong; something to punch me in the face and say “hello, what do you think you are doing?!” It’s this place that made me wake up my mother in the middle of the night after an overdose.

Things have changed and I can’t say I’m suicidal anymore, but I stil live in my stark raving sick sad little world and help helps. That simple.

I found help.com because I, literally, typed the word “help” in the internet address bar. I was feeling depressed, and just wanted help, from somewhere. And, this site showed up. And it has helped. :)

dare_to_move wrote:
I’m glad that you are getting better :)

It’s really nice to see so many people reply, saying this place has helped them. It really shows this place can make a difference and it does. Makes me smile.

I was looking for pleh.com, but am dyslexic, so I ended up here. :-) I am new, but thought if I stick around long enough, I may find other dyslexic people like myself to commiserate with.

dare_to_move wrote:
I’m glad its helped. This place sure has helped loads of users.

angelwings4 wrote:
I was looking for pleh.com, but am dyslexic, so I ended up here. :-) I am new, but thought if I stick around long enough, I may find other dyslexic people like myself to commiserate with.

(: moc.pleh ot emoclew

pianomansquiggly~~~ wrote:

angelwings4 wrote:
I was looking for pleh.com, but am dyslexic, so I ended up here. :-) I am new, but thought if I stick around long enough, I may find other dyslexic people like myself to commiserate with.

(: moc.pleh ot emoclew

!ouy knahT

Me too. Pity its changed.

Yes, when not infested with idiots.

I was bored on the computer searching randomly for nothing while singing “Help I need somebody”.
:D

“Help! y’know I need someone heelp”

We might just end up typing song lyrics back an’ forth now.
xD

“I never needed anybody’s help in any way!
But now these days are gone I’m not so self assuuuuured”

xD !

“And I do appreciate you being rooooouuuund.
Help me get my feet back on the groooouuuund
Won’t you pleeeaase, pleeeaase help me.”

xD
We’re a pair of talented twerps.
:P

I typed “help” into google out of boredom lol.

I was on msn one time.
and I told my friend that he needed help.
And I always send stupid things like ‘www.brandonlikesbuttsecks.com’
So I was like ‘www.help.com Go on that, you need it’ (I didn’t know it was a site)
Then he’s like ‘This is a real site you know’
So I clicked, joined, and here i am.

Long story short, I came here because I was feeling lonely inside but I covered that in looking for help with relationships. Never totally figured that one out =P but I started venting, if not directly but through replying to people. I saw someone legit talked out of suicide on a post and that inspired me from then on. Now, its just addicting, and I love just seeing how many different people are on here

I came here looking for help. I needed help on family matters specifically my abusive mom.

It was a loooong time ago, feels like another lifetime completly, I was having loads of health problems and work problems and felt worthless and typed in help, with the help of many people that dont even come here everyday I have managed to get back onto and enjoying life to the full, but I always come back for support and guidence

Hey Dare to Move, this is most popular post, and it deserves it!
I came here because a couple of my family members were on here originally.
Then when we would be at dinner, they’d be talking about all the people on the site.
It sounded really cool.
So I, too, signed on here.
And I got soooo hooked!
I discovered that helping others helps me in return.
I, too, have a profound shyness problem.
But coming on here and helping and forming friendships just sort of set me free.
I’ve been away for a couple of months now, due to circumstances beyond my control.
BUT I am back, and I am extremely thankful that Help.com is still kicking ***.
I have made friends, made enemies, and fallen deeply in love in the last year.Right here on Help.
This is just the most awesome site.
So, there.
That is my story and I’m stickin’ to it! :o)
Take care, everyone! Peace and Love Edie

I was on a major guilt-trip around this time last year, I was bored at work and typed “help” into Google. The rest, as they say, is history.

I randomly typed in google HELP ME!!!! Can’t remember what I was going through at the time though… My random personality can get me far sometimes :D

i typed Help.com in my address bar and this popup

i was wanting to found some one can help me and found some one that i can help him too

2 1/2 is soooooo long, maybe I should think about retiring and concerntrating on my own life for a while :)

Victoria Sponge wrote:
2 1/2 is soooooo long, maybe I should think about retiring and concerntrating on my own life for a while :)

I did that for a few months, but I missed this place

Dorian wrote:

Victoria Sponge wrote:
2 1/2 is soooooo long, maybe I should think about retiring and concerntrating on my own life for a while :)

I did that for a few months, but I missed this place

Well, it’s good to know you’re not abandoning us for good! :P

Dorian wrote:
Well, it’s good to know you’re not abandoning us for good! :P

That’s if they still have the internet that far in the future lol!

Oh yeah, maybe they will invent transporters we could all just meet up in a real life chat room!!! Um I think I may be letting my imagination get the better of me now!

That’d actually be kinda awesome

I know wouldnt it be soooooo much fun

It might be kinda weird though - I like coming here because you get some measure of anonymity. It’d be weird meeting all these people I’ve been talking to face to face all of a sudden!

Thining they know all my deepest darkest worries and problems and anxiety. Sometimes I think of the people here and think wow strangers help me then go about their normal lives and I could be walking past them in the street, the wonder of the internet

I never thought of it like that, I suppose you’re right though.

pianomansquiggly~~~ wrote:

dare_to_move wrote:
I’m glad its helped. This place sure has helped loads of users.

believe it or not, these are the dark days of help.com. Despite it being a great site, it used to be a hell of a lot better. There used to be a lot more people here too. Now close to everyone is absent :P

it’s true. It is good here but it used to be even better. I’ve met known alot of people on here and alot of them have dissapeared. hotsox, crisa, candp, queen elizabeth. thepp aswell and there was tapdancer. I’m not sure if she’s still here actually.

I think it would be fun to meet people on here. I’ve already met one person, but they live basically down the street. Haha.
It’s different meeting people THEN telling them all of your problems. When you meet somebody because you needed help on tem and they were helping you… It builds a different relationship. Still a friendly normal one, but there is something else there as well. Knowing that they know your deepest secrets, but they still accept you anyway.

Thats true, I have often wondered if it would be awkward or what, I have been here sooooo long and seen so many people come and go and wonder how their lives have panned out

Yeah, it’s strange to think about, huh? I think it would be fun!
Haven’t they done a few Help.com Road trips?

I think they’ve had a couple of meetups in the States. Someone tried to organise one over here last year but nothing ever came of it.

Victoria Sponge wrote:
Thats true, I have often wondered if it would be awkward or what, I have been here sooooo long and seen so many people come and go and wonder how their lives have panned out

same here

Rocco. wrote:
Yeah, it’s strange to think about, huh? I think it would be fun!
Haven’t they done a few Help.com Road trips?

oh my gosh, that would be so cool! :) I’d love to go on one of those if they organised one

I never went on it, I just heard about it. I think it would be way cool!

Thats so funny, the people in the states all manage to meet up then us in little tiny England just can’t seem to comit to anything :)

If I go to England in a few months(There is a possibility, I just have to find the time.) We should totally do it! Haha.

Well, I think it had more to do with the fact that the person trying to organise it was only 14 and couldn’t get the time off school…

Rocco. wrote:
If I go to England in a few months(There is a possibility, I just have to find the time.) We should totally do it! Haha.

Haha, that could be the reason.
*Starts auto-updates so I don’t have to keep refreshing the same page over and over and over again!!!*

Now watch, everybody stops talking. -_-

Victoria Sponge wrote:

Rocco. wrote:
If I go to England in a few months(There is a possibility, I just have to find the time.) We should totally do it! Haha.

Oooooh I bet you all meet up in England and I will have moved to Australia :( Typical, I will have to organise a Help Ausie road trip

I want to go to Australia too! But only for a visit, nothing big. Haha.

Are there many users in Australia?

I know of 3 or 4…
Most people are in England or Canada.

There are tons of people in the US too

Yeah, but MOST of them are in Canada or UK.
There is quite a few over here though, which is pretty cool. :D

You’re from England, right?

Dorian wrote:
Well, I think it had more to do with the fact that the person trying to organise it was only 14 and couldn’t get the time off school…

I know a few Ausies, they are obviusly on at different times to me tho, I miss Dougie :( I’m gonna look him up when I get there, I really cant wait to get there

Rocco. wrote:
Yeah, but MOST of them are in Canada or UK.
There is quite a few over here though, which is pretty cool. :D

You’re from England, right?

Correct!

Yep I’m England, soon to be Aus

Dorian wrote:

Rocco. wrote:
Yeah, but MOST of them are in Canada or UK. There is quite a few over here though, which is pretty cool. :DYou’re from England, right?

Correct!

Hurrah!

It’s pronounced “Huzzah” over here old bean, don’tcha know!

Dorian wrote:
It’s pronounced “Huzzah” over here old bean, don’tcha know!

Huzzah and Hurrah are different things. :P
Huzzah is for victory. Hurrah is for excitement.
I used to say Huzzah way too much. Haha.

Yes, but as victory is exciting, and excitement provides a victory over the mediocrity of everyday life, the two are really interchangeable. So there! :P

Exactly! So they can each be used whenever. :P So I did no wrong by using Hurrah instead of Huzzah!

…kinda shot myself in the foot there, didn’t I?

Yup. :D

D’oh!

I’m so shy that one time I entered a contest for shy people and I lost?

Do you know why? I was too shy to go to the stage and accept the prize so they had to give it to somebody else. Actually, nobody won it because everybody was too shy to up to the stage to accept it.

Interesting…
I used to be shy, I’m getting over it now! :D(Kinda. XD)

dare_to_move wrote:

Rocco. wrote:
Interesting…I used to be shy, I’m getting over it now! :D(Kinda. XD)

Lucky…I’m always shy.

So was I. Like… The shyest of the shy. Now, I’m forcing myself to get out and do things. And to talk to people. O.o
This site has helped me a ton with that. :D

I’m still bound to the shyness. :P It’s still annoys me because it is always there. You just have to pretend that you aren’t shy.
I know it’s complicated, but it can be done.

After all; All through Elementary and Middle School, I was the kid that walked quickly class to class, sat in the shadows during recess, didn’t eat lunch because there was nobody to sit with… Spent all day everyday sitting at home, alone. Reading books to pass the time and escape from the lonely hell I was living.

:P You just need the right incentive and you can put all of that behind you and pretend to be a normal person that isn’t shy. :P

dare_to_move wrote:
Its harder than it sounds…much harder.

I know. I went through it. I know it’s not something you can just do because I tried. For years and years. I hated myself because of my shyness. Before Highschool, I can honestly say that I only had one person that I could call a friend. Not even a close friend. Just a person that might say Hi once every few months. I’m still shy. I just pretend that I’m not. :P
It’s my mask.

You can do it too. It just takes practice. Put yourself in somebody elses shoes and pretend to be them. Say what they would say and do what they would do.

I’m not even remotely shy. Just thought I’d put that out there.

Dorian wrote:
I’m not even remotely shy. Just thought I’d put that out there.

Now, YOU, my friend, are lucky.

My boyfriend wasn’t treating me the greatest, I didn’t understand why he was acting the way he was, I couldn’t talk to him about it because that just always made everything worse, and I couldn’t talk about it to any of my friends because of… well, various complications. I just wanted someone to talk to, so I Googled for advice sites and stumbled across this one!! I absolutely love it :D I can get advice and a sympathetic ear immediately. And I love being able to help out other people, too.

Rocco. wrote:

Dorian wrote:
I’m not even remotely shy. Just thought I’d put that out there.

Now, YOU, my friend, are lucky.

Oh, i know it! I used to be painfully shy, but I managed to drag myself out of it eventually. With a little help from my friends, of course! :D

I get by with a little help from my friends.
I’m gonna try with a little help from friends.

You need friends in the first place to have them help you! :P

Rocco. wrote:
I get by with a little help from my friends.
I’m gonna try with a little help from friends.

You need friends in the first place to have them help you! :P

Goog song, by the way!

Dorian wrote:

Rocco. wrote:
I get by with a little help from my friends.
I’m gonna try with a little help from friends.

You need friends in the first place to have them help you! :P

Goog song, by the way!

*agrees* good song

I’m actually planning/hoping to meet some people from help.com when I’m going to England in September, give people a hug in real life and have a cup of tea *smiles*

Thanks for the sympathy dare_to_move. There’s no progress with my abusive mom. You’d have more luck turning water into blood rather than making mom human. She’s not human. So beware. Hahaha.

The members here helped me endure her abusiveness considering that the best option is to do nothing about it and try to be out of the house soon enough.

The feeling that people here care about me is one of the things that helped me keep my act together.

I’m still having nightmares of her abuses but the flashbacks have been less.

What brought you here?

dare_to_move wrote:
I’m sorry about that..I don’t know what to say.
What brought me here? I can answer that in one word:
Cancer.
And the fact that I have about a year and a half to live.

I’m sad to hear that. I don’t know what to say but here’s a hug.

dare_to_move wrote:
I’m sorry about that..I don’t know what to say.
What brought me here? I can answer that in one word:
Cancer.
And the fact that I have about a year and a half to live.

I am so sorry to hear that, there are no words but I am here if you ever need to chat

dare_to_move wrote:
Thanks you guys.. i’m getting by though. My life isn’t all bad.. and once I except it..I can move on eventually. The main person i’m worried about though is my mother. I’m the only person she has. At least ever since my father died of cancer when I was eleven.

At least you have time to prepare her, leave her little reminders of you, when Jade Goody died she gave her boys bracelets and said that she would always be with them maybe you could do something like that for your mum, help her find other friends to help her through

Don’t ever forget to take care of yourself, don’t lose yourself in those worries - is there noone else that can step up and care for your mom?

Must have been very hard to lose you father so early in live to that ugly disease, wish I could say more.