Unfortunately, that seems to be more and more common. Parents just don’t seem to be as involved in their children’s lives as they used to be. Of course, a lot of kids today seem to go out of their way to keep their parents out of their lives.
No. My mum is like this too.
Some families are just like that. Not everyone is all open to emotions and ****. If you are, that’s great, try to share that with your mum - melt her icy heart!
But yeah, my family doesn’t do hugs and “i love yous” and big talks about emotions. They just conceal it with a great sense of humour and get on with it.
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3 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)
jcd wrote:
Unfortunately, that seems to be more and more common. Parents just don’t seem to be as involved in their children’s lives as they used to be. Of course, a lot of kids today seem to go out of their way to keep their parents out of their lives.
its not that they are not involved, they worked hard to give me (and my sibling) music lessons and a good education…I talk to her, but its the type of conversation you would have with a friend, not a daughter.
Anonymous wrote:
jcd wrote:
Unfortunately, that seems to be more and more common. Parents just don’t seem to be as involved in their children’s lives as they used to be. Of course, a lot of kids today seem to go out of their way to keep their parents out of their lives.
its not that they are not involved, they worked hard to give me (and my sibling) music lessons and a good education…I talk to her, but its the type of conversation you would have with a friend, not a daughter.
People in general are weird. No one can be the perfect parent. But she is trying by the sounds of it.
My mom was affectionate but I don’t remember my dad ever hugging me or showing any affection towards just about anyone except my mom. Some people don’t like to touch even though they love you… I don’t think it’s any different then it was 50 years ago. If anything people were less affectionate back then.
Perhaps she was abused as a child. I always thought it was weird that my mom-in-law didn’t show affection to her kids. Then I found out she was sexually abused.
hateTHEhate wrote:
No. My mum is like this too.
Some families are just like that. Not everyone is all open to emotions and ****. If you are, that’s great, try to share that with your mum - melt her icy heart!
But yeah, my family doesn’t do hugs and “i love yous” and big talks about emotions. They just conceal it with a great sense of humour and get on with it.
Same with my family really. Kind of pisses me off, but I got used to it. My mom doesnt like hugging, because she has her personal space and doesnt like touching. Everyone has the right to choose what they like.
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3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)
there is always the 5 love languages,
- Words of affirmation
-Physical touch
-giving gifts
-Quality time
-Serving or doing tasks for you or others
Maybe physical touch just isnt how your mom shows her affection toward you.
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/30se…
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3 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 54 minutes after post)
Anonymous wrote:
there is always the 5 love languages,
- Words of affirmation
-Physical touch
-giving gifts
-Quality time
-Serving or doing tasks for you or others
Maybe physical touch just isnt how your mom shows her affection toward you.
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/30se…
…I honestly get none of those! - she pays for some lessons but thats it - everything else I do myself and I have constantly being trying to repay her as she constantly complains bout money.
Anonymous
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3 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 55 minutes after post)
thanks guys…cheered me up a bit :-)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
there is always the 5 love languages,
- Words of affirmation
-Physical touch
-giving gifts
-Quality time
-Serving or doing tasks for you or others
Maybe physical touch just isnt how your mom shows her affection toward you.
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/30se…
…I honestly get none of those! - she pays for some lessons but thats it - everything else I do myself and I have constantly being trying to repay her as she constantly complains bout money.
let me help explain.. lol the 5 love languages are the 5 different ways that people show that they love you… so if you have words of affirmation you like it when people tell you your beautiful or that you did a great job at whatever it is you did and you affirm other people, if you have physical touch, you show people affection by hugging patting on the back ect. , serving- means that you do simple tasks for people and just like to help them out and you like it when thats done for you too. giving gifts- like flowers, choclates, ect.. and quality time, means that you love that one on one time with the people you love and having there undivided attention.
so i think what he/she was trying to say was that maybe your mom just isnt a physical touch type of person, maybe she just shows her love for you in a different way.. and if your feeling like shes never opened up to you and all that stuff.. tell her. tell her what your feeling.. bcuz if she doesnt know than how is she ever going to fix it?
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