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The ex.

so i moved out 5 months ago and he hasn’t had a job in 9 months. he had to borrow money to pay his rent. i no longer contribute to paying any of the bills. he got his electric shut off today and asked me if i had the 400.00 to lend him. i don’t. and he wouldn’t pay me back because he doesn’t have a job. i have helped him before with giving him some extra money for gas and food for the kids. Im just so frustrated. Now he cant take the kids because there is no electicity, and no food now. im at the point where i just dont know how to handle him. he also is bi-polar so i never get the same person everyday. one minute he is angry, the next sad, the next just blah. i provide all diapers, and formula and food. child support has not started and it will be a bit they said. The reason that i typed this is because he was diagnosed with menengitis, and has lymes disease and a problem with his kidneys so i think i have this whole feeling bad for him issue. and after today he has no where to go cant borrow any money and will most likely be homeless, and his phone is now shut off which worries me so much. do i go to the house and check?

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 139 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

You better go check and see how he’s doing. However, there’s nothing you can do but keep the kids with you and keep them safe. Don’t throw good money after bad money. Specially if you’re not going to get it back.

All that money should be going to your kids and for their own welfare. Take care of your kids first.

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jessica0909 offline Verified User (7 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

i agree. i just have all the kids with me and and this time no one to watch them if i do go and check on him. if something bad happend i hate to have the children there. he has a history or depression and he is a cutter and i believe over dosed a couple of months ago. he would never admit to it but he was in the hospital having his stomach pumped due to the pills he was on. im no longer in love with him but im still worried.

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Barbyman offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

I dont know how one gets in so much SH%$#@ .MY concern is the Kids and i would suggest the same as littlenick….

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (16 minutes after post)

i dont know either. i just am so scared to go there if i walk into something that i dont want to see. can a person just call the police and have them check? or would that be wrong? there isn’t anyone i can call either to check for me.

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chlomazing offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (38 minutes after post)

i defintelty suggest keeping the kids with you… and maybe getting him into rehab or something.. that way your kids might actually have a dad someday..but as for checking on him.. do you have someone you can leave your kids with while you go? or do you know any of his neighbors that could maybe check for you?

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 139 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (40 minutes after post)

We are all victims of our devices and the situations we create. That applies to him and don’t get your kids or yourself involved with him anymore.

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chlomazing offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (43 minutes after post)

ya, littlenick is right… he IS a grown man.. and can make his own decisions… if he wants to do that to himself hes only going to suffer more… the only way he can get help is if he reaches out and gets it himself.. wich will mean that hes ready to change

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