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How do I talk to a friend I haven’t talked to in years?

I was extremely close friends with my neighbor for 9 years, until he stopped talking to me for no apparent reason. I have no idea why he stopped talking to me, and I really want to find out. I have let this go for 3 years, and have not confronted him (thinking he would one day come back and talk to me and everything would be alright again). Waiting around hasn’t changed anything. He still isn’t talking to me, and it is breaking my heart. I still love him as a friend and at one point in our friendship as more than a friend. Should i confront him, or wait for him to come to me? If i should confront him, any suggestions on what I should say? thank you for help, and comments

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- Fourthings™ - offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 Add Friend #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 4 months ago (10 minutes after post)

If he’s in a relationship, then he prolly cut contact with you cos he has/had feelings for you. If you’re both single then go say hi, if not, let sleeping dogs lie…

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (11 minutes after post)

depends on ur manners;if i were u;i’d be blunt!go & asked him:”hi!one question i’d apprecsiate u answered me;what i’ve done?what 4 u haven’t taik 2 mme4 year??but if u can’t just start talking 2 him;pretend nothing has happend & uremember just ur friendship not his bad behavior…
remember no one changes 4 no reason u might have done s.th wich made him react…

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (15 minutes after post)

yeah when he stopped talking to me he was in a relationship, but now he’s not.
thanks for the help

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (17 minutes after post)

It doesn’t look like he will initiate new contact and if you want to know, ask him, if for 3 years you haven’t talked and you don’t know why; joke about it, buy him a drink, ask “how are you?” (that kind of thing) If it’s nagging at you, after all those years what can happen that is keeping you from just talking to him - have a cup of tea with the guy.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (19 minutes after post)

so maybe he’s regretted & want 2 talk 2 u again…
infact i’ve done nothing…

sm11332 wrote:
yeah when he stopped talking to me he was in a relationship, but now he’s not.
thanks for the help

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