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How to deal with loneliness in an LDR

Hi, I’m an American in an LDR with an Englishman. We met online and we’re engaged. We just really click and are so compatible.

My question is I just get so lonely because I just love him so much. I have never felt this way about anyone before and I know I never will. We talk several times a day and sometimes talk on the phone; we haven’t met in person yet. When we meet (I’m hoping next summer), I just know my loneliness will be even more difficult because then I would have felt the physicality of our relationship. He has some things he has to take care of on his end; that’s why we have to wait to be together.

My question is, are there any other people that are in/have been in a similar situation with a very long distance relationship and can offer my advice for feeling so sad - some nights I cry out of frustration because I want to be with him more than anything. Thanks!

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xirus offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Louisville, KY, US | 4 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

my advice is for you to get a life. i am not trying to be mean by saying that. you’re an emotional wreck and you haven’t even met this man yet. men sense the desperation sometimes and run the other direction. things are fine now because you’re here and he is there. imagine what things will be like when you consummate your relationship and then have to be apart again. you are most definitely setting yourself up for disaster. i tell my friends when they start a new relationship, “make sure you comfortable with me (which is themselves) before you become a part of we.” you can not contribute to a relationship if you are not 100% there for yourself in the beginning. it will not work.

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