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I would rather not talk about it more with her until I can figure out exactly how to put it.
I was thinking about just staying until about 10:30.

Errr…. I’d rather not actually have them sit down and talk about it.
Although, I might ask my friend’s mom or aunt to talk to her about it.

xirus wrote:
show your maturity to your mom and talk with her. write down the reasons you want to go to the quinceanera. don’t forget to let her know that you also want to fulfill an obligation. you did a great job at explaining your situation here. it should not be a problem to show this same maturity to your mom.

about the female friend, if she is really that fickle to drop your friendship if your mom forbids you from going, then she is not a friend and you should not be bothered with that childishness anyway.

good luck or buen suerte!

I’ll try to, but still not sure to.
I’ve used the “I already said that I was going to go.” Excuse a few times.
So I’m not sure if it’ll work.

And about my friend, she takes these kinds of promises seriously.
Plus, she already told me to do this a few times, and I said that I am working on it.

Thanks a lot for the suggestions mate.

vmrotci wrote:
I would suggest that last option as a good course of action if you’re scared to talk to her yourself. Something I would like to say is that no matter what you do or think your mom is your mom. She might not be the best in the world (trust me i have a pretty crazy mother) but she’s your mom and she loves you. Everything Xirus said you should consider.

Another thing you might want to consider is sitting down and talking with your friend about the situation and see if you’re right about her completely leaving you as a friend. That just sounds harsh. And if she really would she doesn’t sound like a great friend to me.

Yeah, I am thinking about when to sit down and talk to my mom about it.
Should I do it soon?
Or should I wait until she’s in a really good mood?

Well, that’s what she said to me.
But I am sure she just expanded it to make me feel like I HAVE to go.
If all fails and she does shun me, then I am going to lose a really good person in my life.
But all well, life goes on.

vmrotci wrote:

Xero* wrote:

vmrotci wrote:
I would suggest that last option as a good course of action if you’re scared to talk to her yourself. Something I would like to say is that no matter what you do or think your mom is your mom. She might not be the best in the world (trust me i have a pretty crazy mother) but she’s your mom and she loves you. Everything Xirus said you should consider.

Another thing you might want to consider is sitting down and talking with your friend about the situation and see if you’re right about her completely leaving you as a friend. That just sounds harsh. And if she really would she doesn’t sound like a great friend to me.

Yeah, I am thinking about when to sit down and talk to my mom about it.
Should I do it soon?
Or should I wait until she’s in a really good mood?

Well, that’s what she said to me.
But I am sure she just expanded it to make me feel like I HAVE to go.
If all fails and she does shun me, then I am going to lose a really good person in my life.
But all well, life goes on.

You should do it when you’re ready and when you think you can present your point.

Your mom is probably a reasonable lady and it’s not a bad idea to wait for a good mood.

Now as for your friend. I’m sure she won’t shun you for life. And if she does well then she wasn’t a very good friend and chances are that really good friend your losing now is easily replaceable.

Let me tell you. I had a friend in junior high that i thought i could trust for everything. Turned into a person who I haven’t spoken to in 6 years since we had a small falling out like this one. Now let’s take a different person. I met this friend of mine freshmen year in high school. I never really really sat down and talked to him until senior year. He started to really become a cool friend we had alot of the same classes and we started doing alot of activities around school together. That was 2 years ago and now he’s like my best friend ever. I can talk to him about anything and we totally get each other all of the time. It’s really good.

friends will come and go but the ones who stay and stick with you are ones who are true friends.

I’ll see when’s the best time, probably in the next week or two.
I don’t want to postpone it, because if I do end up not going, then I want to give my friend some time to find a replacement.
My mom is somewhat reasonable, but when it comes to going to parties, dancing or even talking to girls on the phone, she’s not too happy about it.

Maybe not for life, but it’s going to be a rough task trying to earn her friendship back.
I’m sure it wouldn’t be too hard to replace her, but it’s just, I can’t really stand it when a certain person or group of people dislike me.

The situation that you had with your friend in high school is the same with me.
I knew her last year, but we didn’t talk because we were too shy.
This year, we had 3 classes together, so we became friends. Then I managed the courage to ask her for her phone number, and from there we just hit it off.

vmrotci wrote:
well it sounds like you’re on the right tract with your mother.

The thing with your friends sounds like a rough situation you’re trying to make work and that’s admirable. Trying to make a friendship work through tough times is a very good thing.

The one piece of advice i’d like to give is that there will always be people that dislike you. Sometimes you just have to roll with it and let it not get to you. Their opinion is not the only opinion in the world and they are not the almighty judgers of the universe. Take it all with a grain of salt and remember that life goes on.

Yeah, hopefully she’ll go for it.

Well of course there will be people that will dislike me.
But I’m trying to become friendlier with my fellow peers.
To me, it’s better to have a lot of friends rather than a limited circle.
But I am aware that there are some lost causes.
Those I let go.

vmrotci wrote:

Xero* wrote:

vmrotci wrote:
well it sounds like you’re on the right tract with your mother.

The thing with your friends sounds like a rough situation you’re trying to make work and that’s admirable. Trying to make a friendship work through tough times is a very good thing.

The one piece of advice i’d like to give is that there will always be people that dislike you. Sometimes you just have to roll with it and let it not get to you. Their opinion is not the only opinion in the world and they are not the almighty judgers of the universe. Take it all with a grain of salt and remember that life goes on.

Yeah, hopefully she’ll go for it.

Well of course there will be people that will dislike me.
But I’m trying to become friendlier with my fellow peers.
To me, it’s better to have a lot of friends rather than a limited circle.
But I am aware that there are some lost causes.
Those I let go.

That’s good it’s good that you let them go. I suggest that while you’re trying to become friendlier with your fellow peers you keep an eye out for that limited circle and find the ones who are really close to you. Those are the people you should try your hardest to work through rough patches.

I’m not saying give up on people you feel won’t be friends forever but it’s important to have order, process, and a hierarchy if you will. But it seems you have a good hold on your situation and I’m sure after talking about all this you have a good handle on what you’re going to do.

So Good luck

Rotciv

I’ll keep that in mind.
Thanks a lot for your help.