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A classic problem…
Ok, this should be a bit long winded.
Me and my girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend) were dating for about a year and 8 months before we split. about a week ago. long story short she cheated on me… more than once. She didnt sleep with anyone, just made out with them. This really makes me uneasy. What it comes down to, the reason why we split, is because she said she isnt happy (obviously). She feels like i never listen to her, like i dont get her. And to be completely honest, I didnt. I thought i did when we were dating, but now i know i had no idea what she was going through. It seems we just kinda fell into a routine, wed hang out, not really do anything, not really talk all that much, then go home and go to sleep. i realize this must have been absolutely hell for her. She tried to talk to me, and i really didnt have much to say back. So needless to say after we split ive realized just how badly ive treated her, and ive also realized just how much better i can be to her. Do i like that she cheated on me? absolutely not. but i can recognize that it was me that pushed her away, and that her actions, while inexcusable, could have been avoided had i put a little more effort into the relationship. Now shes told me shes “seeing” the last guy she cheated on me with. i dont know if theyre dating but i do know they hang out. so over the past few days ive tried to make it clear to her that we can work things out, that i really see the problem and im willing to forgive her and fix things, because i do care for her quite a bit. when i told her she responded with “im sorry” “a week isnt long enough for someone to change” and “i just cant be your girlfriend right now” .. so i ask you.. the people of the internet. for suggestions. the only thing i can think of is letting her go. giving her her space and maybe shell come back. but living without her is hard. im open for suggestions…
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