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People really need to stop asking questions if ytheir going to fight with the people trying to help… and yes you know who you are.
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woahh who woke up on the wrong freaking side of the bed today? and yes you know who you are.
Hey Mesiya, nice try at acting like someone else. The ya’ll just gave you away. lol.
Anonymous wrote:
I read thet other post with Mesiya and guys did not listen to him. I guess ya’ll havee to many problems with yourselves to actually be serious. Its a shame he explained like 3 different times that he was talking about the women he knew but some of people just attacked him even more. lol kinda funny actually. Hey what the Heck its only the internet :)
No we did listen to him. He was just way too defensive to listen to us which is ironic becuase thats what his post was about!!!! He said one thing then tried to back it up by saying we were wrong… NOT! ANd im getting sick of people that only ask question to fight with people!
how stupid do they think we are :/
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Anonymous wrote:
I read thet other post with Mesiya and guys did not listen to him. I guess ya’ll havee to many problems with yourselves to actually be serious. Its a shame he explained like 3 different times that he was talking about the women he knew but some of people just attacked him even more. lol kinda funny actually. Hey what the Heck its only the internet :)
Yeah that is pretty funny. I didnt even realize the stpuid Ya’ll crap again… see what speaking in slang gets you? Learn to say things properly so you dont get the wrong advice and just agrivate yourself! And i started this post pretty much cuz i wasnt done with you!
Anonymous wrote:
very lol
No your stupid… leave my post if your going to be dumb!
~willard~ wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I read thet other post with Mesiya and guys did not listen to him. I guess ya’ll havee to many problems with yourselves to actually be serious. Its a shame he explained like 3 different times that he was talking about the women he knew but some of people just attacked him even more. lol kinda funny actually. Hey what the Heck its only the internet :)
No we did listen to him. He was just way too defensive to listen to us which is ironic becuase thats what his post was about!!!! He said one thing then tried to back it up by saying we were wrong… NOT! ANd im getting sick of people that only ask question to fight with people!
Hey now - dont let it bring you down girl. That’s just how some people do. Dont let their negativity affect you. They’re either angry at the world or do it just for kicks.
usurper wrote:
~willard~ wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I read thet other post with Mesiya and guys did not listen to him. I guess ya’ll havee to many problems with yourselves to actually be serious. Its a shame he explained like 3 different times that he was talking about the women he knew but some of people just attacked him even more. lol kinda funny actually. Hey what the Heck its only the internet :)
No we did listen to him. He was just way too defensive to listen to us which is ironic becuase thats what his post was about!!!! He said one thing then tried to back it up by saying we were wrong… NOT! ANd im getting sick of people that only ask question to fight with people!
Hey now - dont let it bring you down girl. That’s just how some people do. Dont let their negativity affect you. They’re either angry at the world or do it just for kicks.
True but he closed the post and i wasnt done telling him how i felt. You cant back track on something and expect people to be like “ok”
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Never trust someone who types ya’ll into a sentence online. It’s a good indicator of a low IQ.
Anonymous wrote:
well no i think i’m going to be ur butt hole now
Go for it… i can play games too! Unlike scared chickens that close their post cuz they cant take the heat!!!
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who the hell made my friend Willard upset? GRRRR….
**takes the pistol out of the closet**
Its very understandable that people seeking help are under extra amounts of stress so in talking with they you need to be understanding… that ends when they person gets defensive.. theres no reason for that just becuase your not getting the help you need! NAd you wont even comeout of being anonymous… thats pretty funny dude!
Pepsi wrote:
Never trust someone who types ya’ll into a sentence online. It’s a good indicator of a low IQ.
If abbreviations defined our IQ’s, half the people on this site would be considered mentally challenged. At least half.
Love_Life wrote:
who the hell made my friend Willard upset? GRRRR….
**takes the pistol out of the closet**
Hahaha your awesome!!!! Thank you!
Anonymous wrote:
and a name like Pepsi is? lol whatever Bill
Its called a soda.. its the name of a beverage and i bet since they used it as their screen name, they must like it.
“I think they do it to you because they know it bothers you and you probably show them that it bothers you and they know which buttons to push with you.
Next time I would see them do that, I would just ignore it or walk away and the more times you do it the faster they’re not gonna do it anymore.
As far as your wife’s attitude sounds like you need to tell her this. You say you like to communicate, well, communicate this to her. Tell her what bothers you and I am sure she will tell you what bothers her about you. It’s a two way street. Just be ready to deal with constructively and don’t go off in huff angry.
Talk to her. Or if you cannot talk to her, get a counsellor to do it for you.
If you gonna keep this up, the resentment is gonna build and build until you cannot take it anymore.
It’s only two year of marriage, rookie, that’s nothing. Wait until you’ve been married 10, 20, 30 years. You will be climbing the walls if this problem is still going on and you haven’t gotten a handle on it.
Do it now while it’s early in your marriage or you will never do it.
Good luck!”
Mesiya,
This was a serious reply I gave you. I was trying to be funny previous to that. The serious helpers who normally acknowledge my attempt at humor were ignoring me for your sake to try to keep the post serious and when I turned serious you started insulting them. That was uncalled for on your part. That is why I apologized to them on your behalf and again I apologize to them. Sorry guys. :(
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~willard~ wrote:
Love_Life wrote:
who the hell made my friend Willard upset? GRRRR….
**takes the pistol out of the closet**
Hahaha your awesome!!!! Thank you!
Thanks Amanda :D You’re awesome too!
So now that you made my day, I can put the pistol back in the closet :D
Anonymous wrote:
and you are so right how ever will you forgive me?
I wont! Hahaha…
Nick i knew you were bing serious and genuine. I thought it was nice what you said to him and i just cant see why hes being dumb about it. Your truly an awesome person on here and funny at that too! Your very much appreciated on any post!
dang. and all he ever wanted was to annoy people :/
littlenick wrote:
“I think they do it to you because they know it bothers you and you probably show them that it bothers you and they know which buttons to push with you.
Next time I would see them do that, I would just ignore it or walk away and the more times you do it the faster they’re not gonna do it anymore.
As far as your wife’s attitude sounds like you need to tell her this. You say you like to communicate, well, communicate this to her. Tell her what bothers you and I am sure she will tell you what bothers her about you. It’s a two way street. Just be ready to deal with constructively and don’t go off in huff angry.
Talk to her. Or if you cannot talk to her, get a counsellor to do it for you.
If you gonna keep this up, the resentment is gonna build and build until you cannot take it anymore.
It’s only two year of marriage, rookie, that’s nothing. Wait until you’ve been married 10, 20, 30 years. You will be climbing the walls if this problem is still going on and you haven’t gotten a handle on it.
Do it now while it’s early in your marriage or you will never do it.
Good luck!”
Mesiya,
This was a serious reply I gave you. I was trying to be funny previous to that. The serious helpers who normally acknowledge my attempt at humor were ignoring me for your sake to try to keep the post serious and when I turned serious you started insulting them. That was uncalled for on your part. That is why I apologized to them on your behalf and again I apologize to them. Sorry guys. :(
I don’t know what happened but you are sweeet littlenick :)
And awesome!! :D
And helpful!!
And compassionate!!
And..the list goes on and on…
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Anonymous wrote:
and you are so right how ever will you forgive me?
If that apology is sincere, you need to apologize to everybody here. Please? :)
mesiya wrote:
Everyone needs someone to hate.
i don’t.
mesiya wrote:
Hate me if you want to its not going to change that I am a good person. Everyone needs someone to hate. It makes them feel better about themselves, and on that note let the hatered continue.
Hahahaha if thats how you want to live GO FOR IT! Your a sorry human being if thats how you want to treat the world. WHy do we all need someone to hate? I dont need anyone!
mesiya wrote:
Hate me if you want to its not going to change that I am a good person. Everyone needs someone to hate. It makes them feel better about themselves, and on that note let the hatered continue.
Nobody wants to hate you. Just adjust your attitude a little. That will also work wonders in your marriage.
littlenick wrote:
mesiya wrote:
Hate me if you want to its not going to change that I am a good person. Everyone needs someone to hate. It makes them feel better about themselves, and on that note let the hatered continue.
Nobody wants to hate you. Just adjust your attitude a little. That will also work wonders in your marriage.
Thats ALL ive been saying! Not exaclty in those words but ya thats all you need to do! YOU seem to be the one with the attitude and it sounds like you and your wife have very bad communication skills and thats SOOOO very important in a marriage!
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You need to stop now. C’mon. For me? :(
not while he’s getting all that attention i think.
best to ignore him.
bill, take a hint?
mesiya wrote:
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An Unknown Location | 1 hour, 2 minutes ago (7 minutes after post) mesiya wrote:
Your right women are great listeners when you saying something they want to hear. other than that no they are not. ( well at least the ones I came in contact with )
Sounds like your putting all women into one catagorie and i have to say, as a female, i think that make you pretty messed up. Just because one women is selfish doesnt mean we all are. Get that straight or you will find yourself never to be happy with a women. Maybe it was something that she really didnt want to talk about…
I could go on about how guys dont listen… would you like that? Because i promise you men and women are BOTH like that at one point or another.
Did you read that does that look nice that was rather mean, and that was your first post to me, but I am wrong. You said from the jump I am putting all women into one cat. and you think that makes me pretty messed up, but if you read what I wrote it states ( the women I have come in contact with ) What was your reason for the post?
You started off attacking me and you did a rather great job at it. All you ever did was hate me so I really don’t expect you to stop now.
Putting words into someones mouth is pretty stupid. Yes i said that putting all women into one cat. was dumb and everyone agreed with me because your post said nothing about only the ones you come into contact with. Now lets not go over that again cuz thats a moot point. You need to take responsibilty for what you say and dont bash people. WHat i said was correct and accurate to what you said. You later tried to cover yourself. And then you just stopped listening to us. YOU PROBLEM NOT MINE! I can go on living if you and your wife dont get alonge… wont affect me at all. I dont hate ANYONE!!!!! ANd you sying that doesnt affect me at all but its pretty pathetic like i said, to put words in peoples mouths!
Mesiya, I want you to stick around here for a long time! C’mon!
Gynan Tonix wrote:
not while he’s getting all that attention i think.
best to ignore him.
bill, take a hint?
Bill? I hope your not talking to me….
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~willard~ wrote:
Gynan Tonix wrote:
not while he’s getting all that attention i think.
best to ignore him.
bill, take a hint?
Bill? I hope your not talking to me….
i thought he was bill - honestly - so no, not talking to you.
mesiya wrote:
stop what? willard was wrong for that post and thats what started this whole mess than you have willards freinds throwing in their 2 cents but they never went over the post. I have a problem that typed on to this post I was greated with bs and than told that I need to calm down. The thing is I’ve been calm. I figured that somewhere in this world there were people who might have cared but it doesn’t seem that way. Why with all this hatered who needs love.
Why don’t you take a break and go off for a walk so you can calm down?
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mesiya wrote:
stop what? willard was wrong for that post and thats what started this whole mess than you have willards freinds throwing in their 2 cents but they never went over the post. I have a problem that typed on to this post I was greated with bs and than told that I need to calm down. The thing is I’ve been calm. I figured that somewhere in this world there were people who might have cared but it doesn’t seem that way. Why with all this hatered who needs love.
Your ignoring everyone. I DO NOT HATE YOU! I stared this post because im dealing with someone like you outside of this site and i ned some practice! Im speaking of my brother who has no respect for people at all and im going to teach him how to…
YOU need to listen to us. I have been trying to be nice and i have opened this post becuase i didnt want you to leave thinking we all hate you. You have issuies and its obvious so what can we do to help you? Im asking you straighto out what you need? If you want help give us more details. I didnt join this site to be mean i joined it to give advice and if people want to fight the advice they get, i think its kind of funny, but dumb at the same time. Just appreciate the fact that people actually took time out of their day to see if they could lend you some words of wisdom and all you gave us was hell.
We were both wrong and immature to attack each other but im trying to give in and help. Give me some respect and drop some of your pride and we can help you… thats all im saying. Now dont try to add any word cuz whats said is what i mean. If you add words then your not listening and your still fighting and then i will just close this post.
usurper wrote:
Pepsi wrote:
Never trust someone who types ya’ll into a sentence online. It’s a good indicator of a low IQ.
If abbreviations defined our IQ’s, half the people on this site would be considered mentally challenged. At least half.
Abbreviations, they’re tolerable. But ya’ll is an exception.
what is this chicks prob. people need to chill. its a website where you can do anything. argue, talk, wat ev. gawdd.
kaitlynefin wrote:
its a website where you can do anything. argue, talk, wat ev. gawdd.
Which is exactly what I’m doing. Gawwwwd.
Whoops, that I’m was supposed to be a we’re. Oh well.
Yeah apparently people have issues here… DUH!
Katlynefin: you asked what my problem is and then said that we can do anything here… so thats very contradictory.
To everyone who seems to be annoyed at me today:
Excuse me for being annoyed at the moment for people being ungrateful. I give all that i have to everyone around me and lately people have been slipping on gratitude. Its not something i am willing to put up with. Whether this economy gets bad or not if we let it change us then were all doomed to fall into the pit of acrappy world. We are what makes this world and excuse me for hoping, wishing and praying that we can all get over ourselves and be more respectful of each other. Yes thats a lot to ask and i know theres a storng possibility that it will never happen but as long as i am willing to put my own foot down, i know that i will be working for the better.
When people are nice and helpful you dont take advantage of that. When someone realizes their being taken advantage of, they stop it and that upsets the person who was taking advantage of them. They come to expect it and thats not how it works. You live to earn what you have! You dont just get it. if you do then i feel sorry for you.
I agree and hope that the economy failing will be the very thing that rises people like u to the top ,And sends the greedy Canivers of the world tumbling down.
bjsu wrote:
I agree and hope that the economy failing will be the very thing that rises people like u to the top ,And sends the greedy Canivers of the world tumbling down.
Thank you. Its nice to have some support. Everytime i mention something like this people just tell me that thats not how the world is, i cant change it, and its just going to get worse. It amazes me how many people just dont think we can rise above this! Has ANYONE heard the term…”Power in Numbers”? Think about it and get back to me…
I think you’re a part of a larger minority than you think.I admire your determination, snd share your views.But I’m not sure you can change a zebras spots.I personaly focus on being the best me that I can be. Like Micheal Jacksons ,”man in the mirror”. I’m not afrraid of joining in numbers for a good cause. I don’t know anyone who is.The problem is how to right the wrongs while we are sleeping in the bed we made!
Nobody is annoyed with you Willard. It’s a just a total missunderstanding. I think you are just wonderful! Period.
‘how do we sleep while our beds are burning…’
so yeah… what kind of numbers are we talking about? :)
We sleep as best that we can, And there are “numbers” of us that are people with morals and values
Well its obvious that you cannot change a zebras stripes because they have always been stripes but this world has not always been bad, we have made it that way. I truly dont care if i spend my whole life trying to make this world a better place and ill die doing it!
Thanks Nick. I like you too your an awesome person!
Gynan TOnix - what do you mean numbers? Power in numbers just means that the more people you have the stronger you will be as a team! So the number can be as high as the number of people on this earth and down to one person.
nevermind, got a little carried away there - got a bit of a revolutionary mind these days ;)
It makes me angry when people open posts then leave five minutes later, never to return. I mean I know people are impatient, but seriously . . .
Wow…some help.com drama….unheard of!!!
Its *they’re. Not their.
I have no idea what this is about. But people are always *** holes. Its the internet, the only place where people who are too weak and pathetic to say what they want in real life can vent their anger at the lack of penile size or the anger at daddy who didn’t love them enough or loved them too much or blablablabla whatever.They know you’ll never be close enough to wallop them so they feel safe. It’s anonymous, so people who are dicks in RL are even bigger dicks. After all out evolutionary and technological advances, this is what we have come too-abusing people on the internet.
Which, is much like winning the special Olympics. Even if you win-youre still a retard.
*awaits reports for last comment*
Courty is our resident grammar nazi? Thanks for the memo corporate . . . *grumbles*
well, im not going to bail you up about tiny mistakes, but that really is a VERY basic error. i mean, come on. at least TRY. or use spell check.
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Wow feel the tension in this post……. makes quick retreat….
I have no idea what this post is about, apparently someone is mad because they tried to help someone else who didn’t really want to accept their help but instead wanted to fight them on it(which I agree is stupid, don’t ask for help if you don’t want to listen to it)
So I decided to start reading comments on this post to try and get a grasp of what is happening. From what I have gathered from the first few comments I have read YA’LL have a problem with people who use the word YA’LL instead of you all. I say ya’ll, my family says ya’ll, my friends say ya’ll, everyone in the south says ya’ll. Sorry if you don’t like it but you shouldn’t be using the way someone speaks as a way to insult them. Its just rude & not just rude to the person the insult is towards but other people who the insult involves like innocent people who haven’t done anything to anyone who also say “yall” might get a bit pissy when they find out someone is insulting the way they speak.
Dont hate on the south just because some a** happends to use our lazy version of you all.
Thanks ya’ll :D
It wasn’t about people having a problem with grammar - this all started yesterday with someone asking for help because her husband has a tendency to subject her to his own opinions while ignoring hers. Mesiya saw this as an opportunity to claim this as hypocrisy as this is (in his opinion) what all women are like, when they should be supportive of their men because the Bible says us guys were here first. Or something like that. We got into a fairly heated discussion which resulted in the post being closed, but Mesiya obviously felt he hadn’t had his say and opened up another post, which was also quite inflammatory and (I think) was later either closed or removed. The end result of all of this was the post you see here.
Hmm, having read through his post and all the responses, it seems as though this guy’s been having genuine issues with a lot of the women in his life, which seem to have coloured his perceptions a little, and when he read something he took as an attack he responded in kind, as he did when everyone started ganging up on him. Mesiya has since posted an apology and seems to have left help.com, which is a shame because I think he did have issues that we could have helped him with. On the offchance that he’s reading this, I want to apologise to him for my role in this, and for misjudging him. Here’s a link to his apology for those who are interested:
http://www.facebook.com/ext/share.php…
His apology involves a 7 year old redneck kid driving his drunk daddys car? coz thats what the link is to….
Hmm, give me a minute on that one…
Hey Willard. Im not too sure what the other post is or what happened. Don’t let anyone bring you down. You’re such an awsome person and have helped me through some things. I’m here for ya anyday!! Take care : )
Thank you guys! I know this post is confusing on some levels so ill try my best to explain it without writing a novel. And thank you for all your support!
I wasnt mad when i started this post. The guy started a post out as being sexist and we all said something about it. He took it as an attack, proceeded to bash help.com (Never a good idea in my eyes) and then got mad at us and closed his post. I didnt want him to leave thinking were all scum for him not liking his answer and plus i am a little sick of people not liking the advice we give and getting mad about it. Its retarded and people need to get a grip. I wasnt done talking to him so i opened this post. He came on as anonymous and tried to be mean and rude to all of us.
All i wanted to do was try to help him becasue obviously hes been having issues. We all need help at times and i felt this was his. I genuinely asked him what he would like as far as advice or anything and i never receivced a response.
See not that hard. I admit it was a bit of an argument but im not sorry for it at all. I love this site and everyone i meet just some people get to me. I know i shouldnt let them but im in awe everyday for the amount of ungreatful people in this world.
Thank you again for all the support and comments! I hope everyone is feeling good this wonderful friday morning!
He has apparently left help.com now, so the odds are he never got your message Willard.
Dorian wrote:
He has apparently left help.com now, so the odds are he never got your message Willard.
Thats fine. Som,e people are just a lost cause. My brother for example. The main reason i started this post was because i seem to getting not repsect or gratitude form the people around me. My brother treats me like crap and yesterday was it. I had had it completely. Im done letting people treat me like this! Done!
That’s fair enough, but like I said it sounded like the guy was having issues. I was mad at him yesterday but I feel bad now about the way everyone was suddenly ganging up on him.
Yaaaa!!!! sweet deal. Do not let anyone bring you down! Treat others as you want to be treated. So obviouly, your brother wants to be treated like crap.
And as far as your statement going for people not like the help people give..This is what i have to say to that….
If you don’t like the advice that I have to give to someone, deal with it! It is what I THINK! It is what I beleive and I AM TRYING TO HELP SOMEONE who wrote a post and NOT YOU. So instead of fighting with me like an idiot about something in MY head that you will never change at this point, move on and continue with your won advice.
Willard, you rock!
Thank you MiaMags! Thats sooo sweet of you! Obviously i agree with you!
When animals are sick or injured, they can lash out even at the ones who love them. It’s no surprise that some people hate what they’re told on help.com but all it means is they’re just not ready to hear it yet.
Take comfort that in time, your advice may blossom in them even if its in six months or a year.
linuxya wrote:
When animals are sick or injured, they can lash out even at the ones who love them. It’s no surprise that some people hate what they’re told on help.com but all it means is they’re just not ready to hear it yet.
Take comfort that in time, your advice may blossom in them even if its in six months or a year.
If they are not ready to hear it, then why would they post on Help.com?
Because they want someone to hug them and tell them they are right.
~willard~ wrote:
Thank you MiaMags! Thats sooo sweet of you! Obviously i agree with you!
I have had problems with people where they hate what I have to say. And quite frankly, I wish they never even looked at the post because if I want to give MY advice, I should be able to without anyone else saying something.
Different opinions are what is best for people. Everyone is different and if someone give different advice that would work better with that posters family than someone elses, well do it! Fix your problem.
linuxya wrote:
Because they want someone to hug them and tell them they are right.
But Willards point was that this guy took it the wrong way, I mean comeon, this guy was being sexist!
So yes, he can bemad all he wants but to be sexist?? Please. One day, some female Dr. will save his life and he won’t know what to do. Or he will just die!
When people are hurt and insecure, they lash out at others. They’re racist. They’re sexist. Their homophobic. They’re misogynist. All it means is they are afraid and they deal with their fear by attacking other people.
All anyone wants is to feel respected and appreciated. They just go about getting that in weird ways and it doesn’t make sense to be distracted from what they really need by what they happen to say.
I agree with both of you. And i can see how that would make him mad if he wasnt ready to hear our advice. Never the less that does not give him any right to be mean to people offering their free advice. And yes he was being sexist. He tried to deny it later and got mad that we all saw him try to do deny it. Just own up to what you said, say your sorry, and let the conversation go on. Its not that hard!
linuxya wrote:
When people are hurt and insecure, they lash out at others. They’re racist. They’re sexist. Their homophobic. They’re misogynist. All it means is they are afraid and they deal with their fear by attacking other people.
All anyone wants is to feel respected and appreciated. They just go about getting that in weird ways and it doesn’t make sense to be distracted from what they really need by what they happen to say.
Oh yes, I know that people do that. But do they lash out at someone of their own insecurities or just random things?
~willard~ wrote:
that does not give him any right to be mean
It’s a mistake to think people live by some sort of universal rules like this. People are driven by their fears. Judging them only makes them freak out more. Reaching past their stupid remarks to find the underlying problems is what helps them move past lashing out at others to be a helpful part of the community.
Remember that the thinking brain doesn’t work rationally when the emotional brain is freaking out.
linuxya wrote:
~willard~ wrote:
that does not give him any right to be mean
It’s a mistake to think people live by some sort of universal rules like this. People are driven by their fears. Judging them only makes them freak out more. Reaching past their stupid remarks to find the underlying problems is what helps them move past lashing out at others to be a helpful part of the community.
Remember that the thinking brain doesn’t work rationally when the emotional brain is freaking out.
Not necessarily “universal rules” but the “Golden Rule.” If you treat someone like crap their not going to want to treat you very nice. Yes the better person will ignore it but im NOT that person. Im not going to be intentionally mean to someone who is mean, only if the occasion calls for it. Its called Karma and i DO believe in it because i have seen it happen many of times…
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