marriage help: Getting married, I don’t want a wedding.. - Help.com

actually i think it could be natural to have to think that u dont want to get married coz u might be scared of commitment…
but think and talk about it to your partner

What exactly are you afraid of about getting married?

Tell your fiancé. Your feelings. But remember marriage is just something formal of what you already have. Even if you’re not married being with a person after a few years, is already married perhaps not by law. But it means this person is your significant other half.

Just see the marriage as one big party because that is what it actually is. A celebration with friends and family.

As any party a wedding, it doesn’t need to be big.

Maybe it’s worth going through? It’s only one day.

I want to be married, I just don’t really want a wedding. I’d rather elope, but he really doesn’t want that…
we compromised on a destination wedding, but to be expected the people that should be there aren’t able to come, And people that don;t need to be there will be (his sisters friends!?) yes, she invited her friends.. even though the only people from my family that will be there are my parents.
I guess I need more options.. people think there going on a holiday already.. but I’m feeling guilty for putting that financial burden on people….

Insist on a small wedding if you want. You invite the people to the wedding not his sister.

Invite people only by invitation. No invitation no entrance to wedding. And say there will be a porter who will be checking the invitation.