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Confused about my EX..

so i posted an entry a while ago about me and my ex breaking up. since then he’s gotten a new girlfriend, i’ve done a substantial job at moving on, and we’re friends now. im completely comfortable with us being friends too.

i mean, dont get me wrong, i still have nostalgic feelings every now and then. but they’re never anything that lasts for that long at all. i’ve excepted things how they are. and life is so much easier that way.

he’s told me that it makes him really happy that we’re friends too. the way he talks though, its almost like hes reminiscing on our relationship. like old jokes, and fun times we had. but he never talks about his girlfriend. he never even officially told me that they were together. its kinda like he doesn’t want to bring her between us. i dont know though. this is what confuses me.

i kinda want to stop making an effort in talking to him, just to see how things go. i don’t want to start getting attached again, and be just left there unable to do anything about it.

what does it seem like hes doing?? just trying to be friends, or is he actually missing me??

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

why dont you as him about her coz to me it seems that as much as he like this new girl he is only with her as a last ditch attempt to get over you ok he might have done things in the past to cause you to break up but may be he thought you were the one for him despite that fact you didnt think the same, but talk to him about her ask him if she makes him happy and if he sees himself with her 20 years down the line… if he says no then maybe he is acctully misssing you i dont really know tho - its hard to tell

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Can I ask you who ended the relationship? My ex-gf and are still friends and talk, I talk to her as always and that’s because I want her back. It’s clear that he’s thinking about you.. and maybe he doesn’t have a girl friend, if he hasn’t talked about her, how do you know?

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3 months, 3 weeks ago (56 minutes after post)

I find that he is doing both sort of. He probly does miss you and he is still gettinh over it and having a new gf is just a way he is trying to get over you. So maybe since your happy being friends he is trying to keep you happy by not talking about her because you us e to be her. So if that makes sence that is what I believe he is doin. Good Luck To You!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

theoratica wrote:
Can I ask you who ended the relationship? My ex-gf and are still friends and talk, I talk to her as always and that’s because I want her back. It’s clear that he’s thinking about you.. and maybe he doesn’t have a girl friend, if he hasn’t talked about her, how do you know?

well, he broke up with me. about 2 months ago.

and i know he’s dating this girl because some friends of ours told me. he started dating her though, before we became friends again.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

Yea, see, the way I am is, and please remember your bf may be different, if I break up with a girl it’s because either 1) I don’t want to see her anymore, 2) she hurt me and I need to heal.. your case though it seems different, because he still talks to you the same way and he doesn’t bring up the other girl… my suggestion is, take it slow, play hard to get, and see what happens over time.. another option is, I don’t know how comfortable you feel talking to him, but set up a date or something to figure out what’s going on.. since I am in the same situation and haven’t had a closure to my problem, I may not be the best person to give advice, but this is what I would do.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (2 months, 3 weeks after post)

Hi.my case is almost similar to yours. he broke up with me.i had accepted it and moved on but he’s calling me almost every day just to ask “where are you?” and “Are you ok?”.he’s given me mixed signals like he says he misses me and even ask whether i missed him then he would say he’s really confused now.i mean, i still do have some of those nostalgic feelings for him too but the best thing i can do is just go on with life and leave him to his confusion.you can never force him to figure out something its something he has to figure on his own.however modern this world is, a guy has to pursue the women not the other way round.like they say, if it meant to happen,it WILL happen.so now, just focus on yourself and chill.

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