Hi_Sai is having troubles with the boy!

Hi_Sai

Hi_Sai is having troubles with the boy!

Um. My boy[friend] is socially retarded. Like seriously.

I was talking to my best internet friend and possibly best friend the other day (he claims to be socially retarded) and I was like WOW. I wish my boyfriend was as normal as you (in my head I thought this).

[[Before I continue forgive for an unusual typing pattern. I’m tired. It’s almost 2am where I am.]]

So, one day I was talking with the boy and I was like, “Are you still attracted to your past girlfriends?” And he said no, I’m not really attracted to anyone. So there was a long pause and I said, “So you’re saying you’re not attracted to me?” and he said ‘I’m sorry’. So there I was FREAKING OUT. Getting mad, paranoid, upset, sad, all the female emotions.

Then I ranted to my favorite white male and he was like “WTF?” (Not a direct quote. Majorly summarizing. )

I like my boy very much. I do. But he does a lot of things that upset me. I think it’s because he just isn’t very good at communicating with people. (He even said he wants to pursue a career with as little human contact as possible)

He is sooo arrogant.
He belittles my religious belief. (He’s atheist, I’m agnostic leaning into unitarian universalist)
He is obnoxious about his intelligence.
He NEVER SHUTS UP about video games, computers, building computers, science, and how math is cool.
He’s not very romantic (But hey he’s 16, so I let this one slide)
And now he doesn’t even find me attractive D:<

I’ve never met anyone so…so…rude!

It’s been almost two months since we started going out. And I guess the only reasons why I’m still with him are that he’s decent to me (mostly), I genuinely like him, and he’s really really cute. :( And when we argue he’s like “Please don’t break-up with me”. I think he knows he’s not the best people-person but he doesn’t know how to act in a non-(what’s the word…) provoking way.

Uuuuuuuuuugh. I know this makes me seem like a horrible person. :(

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THE INTERNET 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Wow, you hadn’t told me this much of it, what an *******. I dunno, you seem to have lots of boy trouble, I don’t want to kill something that took a while to grow back but if he was my boyfriend he’d be done allready

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Hi_Sai 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Flying man wrote:
Wow, you hadn’t told me this much of it, what an *******. I dunno, you seem to have lots of boy trouble, I don’t want to kill something that took a while to grow back but if he was my boyfriend he’d be done allready

I didn’t? :O

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kitsune1324 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (26 minutes after post)

you don’t seem like a horrible person. your boy does! i’m sorry!!!

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Well, all I can say is to just remember the reasons why you like him so much, that will lead you into a better relationship, focus on positive things. Now the intellegence thing is only like that cuz(don’t think me wrong) you r dating a geek. Sorry, but just remember to stay on the positive side on things and it will all turn out good.

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Hi_Sai 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (32 minutes after post)

I tend to date nerds. Usually they’re “cool nerds”. This one, though… He’s just a regular nerd. xD I am surprised he has friends (And I tell him) We have a very honest relationship, I’d say.

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Commander Ikari 100 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (10 hours, 57 minutes after post)

He’s probably just an unfeeling person, not entirely, just less then a normal person, coupled with being unsure what he feels, coupled with being poor at expressing it.

His arrogance is because since most people don’t like him, or care about him, he has to care about himself and be more proud of himself.

In short, goddamn.

But I don’t know him. So I dunno know.

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STE3L 16 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (17 hours, 9 minutes after post)

i think the comanders right, just do what you think is right, and if it gets herry, well you get the picture.

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Nante 29 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 16 hours after post)

You know I believe the way socailly interact has everything to do with the conditioning of our lives (unless you have a mental illness that causes problems) I think your boyfriend needs to learn how to interact with people maybe go places in groups or something like that. But this is most likely to be solved if you find out why hes so withdrawn but that probably isnt a conversation you can just start out of nowhere, but if you can open him up and get to why he thinks the way he does, as well as opening up to him yourself it could solve his problem.

But to be honest I say this all in theory you know him better then anyone (on here anyway) so your gonna work this out on your own one way or another, I say try to get tpo the bottom of it.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 6 hours after post)

dump the crap bag.. sorry if you like him, but he seems like the kind of guy i would strongly want to punch in the head.. Id any relationship where the guy is decent to you, most of the time, that you’re staying in because hes really really cute and he asks you to is just never going to work out and its not worth your time putting up with the stress hes putting on your life..

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