I’m concerned about my friend.

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I’m concerned about my friend.

Shes had a terrible image of herself for a long time, and the past couple weeks shes been anorexic. Barely eating anything, whenever she tells me shes eating shes actually chewing and spitting (she tells me this stuff over msn, only hang out in real life once or twice a week, but for several hours). Shes been really tired lately, maybe even a little irritable. Shes not in a talking mood, and seems to be distant. I don’t see her that often on MSN any more, maybe an hour or two a day which is her not really talking too well. Like shes just distancing from me, and I don’t know about her other friends. I’m worried shes either emotionally walking away from me and MSN or depressed or just not in a good mood because of not eating. Or both. Can anyone help?

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}Fållęn{ 25 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

I think its both. You really should urge your friend to eat. She’s going to make herself sick.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

~*M&M*~ wrote:
I think its both. You really should urge your friend to eat. She’s going to make herself sick.

this isn’t the first time shes been anorexic. she says shes knows what shes doing and how dangerous it is. shes seen tons of documentaries and movies about it, read lots of books no doubt read even more articles. last time she went out to lunch it made her day terrible, having to eat and infront of people. i can urge her but she knows all of this already. if i’m concerned it annoys her. her doctor was concerned at her last check up and it annoyed her. i don’t know what i can do.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

It doesn’t matter if it annoys her. She needs to keep herself healthy. What kind of friend would you be if you didn’t let her know? I suggest you have her see a psychologist or something.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

ok, well, for one, you cant just be “anorexic for a couple of weeks”. it is an eating disorder, not something you turn on and off or are then arent. she has body image issues, and possibly EDNOS, but that is not for me to say, that is for a professional to decide.
of course shes backing off, because thats how eating disorders work. the more isolated you are, the more you can get away with it. having people who care about you around is not conducive to starving oneself. i suggest you contact her parents if you are really worried, they are the ones who can take her to the doctor and get her the help she needs. she may not like it, she may hate you for it, but its for the good of her health and needs to be done now before she gets very sick. which can happen very quickly.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

~*M&M*~ wrote:
It doesn’t matter if it annoys her. She needs to keep herself healthy. What kind of friend would you be if you didn’t let her know? I suggest you have her see a psychologist or something.

she sees a therapist. has for a long time. i would let her know but i don’t need her to push me away more. taking this head on probably won’t work. also, she was the most suicidal thursday night then shes been in a year, me and her were hanging out near some rapids by my house, she couldn’t stop thinking how easy it would be to jump in the water and die, and almost wanted to. i’d tell her i’m concerned, and that she needs to eat. i’d tell her she doesn’t need to and i’m afraid for her. i’d tell her alot, but she’ll only be pissed at me.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

courtybubble wrote:
ok, well, for one, you cant just be “anorexic for a couple of weeks”. it is an eating disorder, not something you turn on and off or are then arent. she has body image issues, and possibly EDNOS, but that is not for me to say, that is for a professional to decide.
of course shes backing off, because thats how eating disorders work. the more isolated you are, the more you can get away with it. having people who care about you around is not conducive to starving oneself. i suggest you contact her parents if you are really worried, they are the ones who can take her to the doctor and get her the help she needs. she may not like it, she may hate you for it, but its for the good of her health and needs to be done now before she gets very sick. which can happen very quickly.

she was anorexic for a long time, her family probably doesn’t know but it will make things worse for her if i bring attention to it.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

Well the only thing I can do is to suggest you keep a close I out for her. Is she on meds or something?

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

~*M&M*~ wrote:
Well the only thing I can do is to suggest you keep a close I out for her. Is she on meds or something?

no meds. not that i know of.

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courtybubble 176 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (32 minutes after post)

if her family does not know, she was not anorexic. i am a recovering/ed anorexic, and i know all the doctors and tests you have to go through before you are diagnosed.
it will not make things worse, it will get her the help she needs. it will probably make her mad, but that is not neccesarily making it worse.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

You should tell her family. Even if you go to the parents secretly. They need to know. Its better to have a pissed off friend than a dead friend.

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