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Well clearly you two have alot of talking to do. It’s not one of those easy situations where you can just say dump her and move on, since you have been going out for 3 years and have a son. Put all your feelings and thoughts out in the open, because somewhere along the lines your relationship may have gone wrong somewhere if your partner felt the need to comfort herself to sleep with someone else. Does she regret it, does she still love you? You need to think carefully before taking any steps especially for the sake of your child.
She says she regrets it and is ashamed of what she did and how she’s ruined everything. We’re starting counseling at the end of the month! I try and talk with her but whenever we do she gets defensive and bottles everything up. I want to work it out but how can i be sure it wont happen again, she said that she now realises how much i mean to her but does something like this have to happen in order for her to realise her true feelings?
It shouldn’t do, but for some it does. Looks like she’s the kind of person who took alot of things for granted in her life. And you know what they say, you don’t know what you had till it’s gone. She may be at the verge of losing that’s why she realises how much you meant to her. What do you wnat to do. Because if you’re ready to forgive her and move on, then once you’ve forgiven her you cannot keep throwing this back in her face at every argument. How sure is she that this won’t happen again. Give her time and reassure her that you want to work things and. Take things slowly which allow her to open upto you again. At this stage you both need to think clearly.
Yes i agree thank you for your help. Its a very hard situation to be in and i wouldn’t wish it on anybody! I am trying but it will take a while to trust her like i used to and i don’t want to be that type of person to throw it back in her face either
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My partner and i have been seeing one another just over three years now, we have a 2year old son. I recently found out she slept with some one else 3 months ago when she didn’t come home after a night out…
I had my suspicions and when she did come home the following morning i asked her “is there anything i need to know about last night”? She assureds me there wasn’t and now i found out she slept with a friend of mine & only found out because he told someone and she told my partner that if she didn’t tell me she would. I don’t know if i can trust her as she never would have told me only for that person put pressure on her. So what if there is more she isn’t telling me??? My head is wrecked with this situation and unfortunately its all i can think about. I thought we had a great relationship but she must not agree.
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