Relationships help: My partner and i have been seeing one another just over three years now, we have a 2year old son. - Help.com

Well clearly you two have alot of talking to do. It’s not one of those easy situations where you can just say dump her and move on, since you have been going out for 3 years and have a son. Put all your feelings and thoughts out in the open, because somewhere along the lines your relationship may have gone wrong somewhere if your partner felt the need to comfort herself to sleep with someone else. Does she regret it, does she still love you? You need to think carefully before taking any steps especially for the sake of your child.

She says she regrets it and is ashamed of what she did and how she’s ruined everything. We’re starting counseling at the end of the month! I try and talk with her but whenever we do she gets defensive and bottles everything up. I want to work it out but how can i be sure it wont happen again, she said that she now realises how much i mean to her but does something like this have to happen in order for her to realise her true feelings?

It shouldn’t do, but for some it does. Looks like she’s the kind of person who took alot of things for granted in her life. And you know what they say, you don’t know what you had till it’s gone. She may be at the verge of losing that’s why she realises how much you meant to her. What do you wnat to do. Because if you’re ready to forgive her and move on, then once you’ve forgiven her you cannot keep throwing this back in her face at every argument. How sure is she that this won’t happen again. Give her time and reassure her that you want to work things and. Take things slowly which allow her to open upto you again. At this stage you both need to think clearly.

Yes i agree thank you for your help. Its a very hard situation to be in and i wouldn’t wish it on anybody! I am trying but it will take a while to trust her like i used to and i don’t want to be that type of person to throw it back in her face either