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Confused_xx
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I have feelings for two guys and I don’t know what to do!

One of them is my boyfriend, I am deeply in love with him, but it is a long distance relationship so I only get to see him once a month or so. The other is this guy I have never been in a relationship with, but we have kissed several times a long time ago, when I was single. About a month ago, this guy came out of the relationship he was in. Today, we spent the day together and I am fairly sure he likes me again! But I love my boyfriend… I probably sound like a whore. :S Help!

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rabbits offline Verified User (4 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 9 months ago (2 hours, 57 minutes after post)

Firstly, although a lot of women I know might say it, you don’t sound like a whore, anyone who thinks that is a hypocritical b*t*h, we’re all human.
If you love this other guy more than you love your boyfriend, then the obvious thing to do is to break up with your boyfriend, and get together with the other guy. If you love your boyfriend more, then you owe it to him not to cross the line with the other guy, that would be… a bad thing to do. Even long distance relationships can work out if you really work with them, and before you know it, the distance could close up. If you do decide to go for the other guy, make sure it is either because you love him more, or because you think that the relationship you have with your boyfriend would be a bad one if the distance wasn’t there. You should never let the distance come into your consideration, even if it might make things hard in the short term, it won’t always be an issue.

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jillian-3 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 9 months ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

I have a friend going through this right now. And like the gal said above, you are not a whore. These things unfortunately do happen. It happend to me too and I chose the guy I loved more. Long distance is hard, I was in one. You feel like you are really alone most of the time. So, it does make this other guy more tempting cause he is here. Search in your heart. You say you love your boyfriend, so think about why you would want to risk losing that love..

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