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I am so confused.

I have been with my husband for three years now. He is the angriest person I have ever known in my life. He gets unbelievably angry over politics, kids, money, etc. He was so upset when I told him I was pregnant that he was doing these really weird steps all over the bedroom, ripped his jeans, and was saying “****” over and over in a really high pitched voice. I know this may sound funny to you, but it is depressing. His Dad will ask him to calm down because it’s hard to talk to him when he is acting so angry. I’ve never known anyone to display anger the way he does. I’m worried it’s going to affect our children…He’s very passive about it. He will cuss in front of the kids like it’s no big deal. If he feels upset about it, he acts like it should be okay. I just don’t know what to do. I’ve talked to him about it and it ends up being a huge mistake. He has told me that I knew how he was before we got married, so why do I have a problem now…well truth is, I was going to leave him RIGHT BEFORE I found out I was pregnant with our first child. I should have still left, but I didn’t. I haven’t told him that that was my plan. I just want to do the right thing. What should I do??

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Dorian offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Leave him. It sounds like the only reason you’re with him is to provide a “stable environment” for your kids, but from what you’ve told us he can’t even do that, so if you’re not with him for your kids, and you’re not with him for yourself, there’s no reason to be with him at all.

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Fritwell, K2, GB | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

Everything your kids learn will be from you and your husband they will learn all about anger from your husband you have to ask if this is the right thing for them honey, tell him you need to get them away from him untill he has been to anger management and can prove to you that he is changing

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

Leave him. If hes been angry the whole marriage that doesnt mean you have to accept it. Just because you knew he was like that. He needs to change for the sake of his kids and you. And acting like a little baby that your pregnant again? Sounds like its time for an ultimatim. He does some counseling and anger management or you walk with the kids… thats what my mom did exaclty and he never gave in. He just had to be right for all eternity!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (3 days, 3 hours after post)

Leave him NOW.

Just do it.

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