relationship help: I have to make a decision. - Help.com

I have to make a decision.

I’m a girl in love with a girl - that’s not the focus here, just a little background. We’re in a relationship.

One of our mutual friends is having a party. My girl has recently had surgery, so she cannot attend the party, and I’m more than half certain that tensions between the mutual friend (my best friend) and my girl are the reason for the untimely party so soon after her surgery. (It’s not a birthday party or anything, just a summer sleepover and bonfire.)

I don’t get out much. Usually, I stay at home all day on the internet. I’m interested in going to the party because I think it will be fun. However, my lover is very unhappy that she’s been slighted. She’s too selfless to ask me to stay, because she wants me to have fun.

It feels downright disloyal to go. But when I finally decided that, I told her I would stay (even though I’m dying to go and have already promised to attend) and she said that that wasn’t what she wanted and then proceeded to be very hurt and angry. She has delicate sensibilities and is easily depressed.

She insists that I should go, but in my gut I feel a deep misgiving to go. But staying is clearly making her just as unhappy, and me in turn. What should I do? There seems to be no right choice.

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