Love help: I don’t know what to do…..sometimes I want to give up and then other times I want to keep trying. - Help.com

As hard as it is, try to let go. You may be right — you may be the best thing for him, but if he doesn’t see it or feel it, you can’t force it. It’s like Bonnie Raitt sang, “You can’t make your heart feel something it won’t.”

If you can’t let go now, and he doesn’t change his mind, you’ll have to let go eventually, from fatigue if nothing else. Still, sometimes we have to hold on until it’s obvious there is no hope before we can let go.

Honey, i really sympathize with you but this is a good example of the fact that oposite sexes can be best friends.
You have been his friend doing everything for him, yet he has only ever seen you as a friend, you saw more.
It is unlikely that he is going to change his mind.
You have to make a choice - can you continue the way you are spending all your time with him & accept that you more than likely will never be with him, or do you see him less, give it a go with one of the other guy’s that can see the potential fantastic gf you can be.
There comes a time in life when you need to cut your losses & move on, it seem’s to me that this is that time for you.

J.N lost,
Thanks so much for the quick response! I really appreciate it! I love him so much and this is so hard for me b/c I am usually able to move on when I really like someone and when things don’t work out, but with him…..I am afraid to let go because I don’t want another girl having him. I am sorry if it may seem selfish, but I don’t ever want for him to have to go through the hurt I have went through in relationships before. I know I would never cheat on him and would never let him down. I am so scared to let go.

Migratingredtai,
Thanks so much for you advice! It helped me alot! Your words were so true and yea….I honestly agree that sometimes we can’t let go until we obvious know that there isn’t any more hope into what we are making an effort for. Thanks so much!

Migratingredtai,
Thanks so much for your response! It really made me think! I really liked your last sentence when you mentioned “Still, sometimes we have to hold on until it’s obvious there is no hope before we can let go.” I have never been so patient in my life esp with something like this! It teaching me alot, but I am just really hoping I don’t get my heart broken badly! :(

Im sorry i took a while to get back to you :(
It looks as though you will & are getting your heart broken already, i know your going to think it’s easy for me to say it - but you love the wrong guy!!
you sound like a fantastic person & you will make some guy soo happy but i think you need to face up to it - this isn’t the guy.
You have a lot to give, don’t waste it, give it to someone that want’s it.
It doesn’t matter how much we want to or how much we try, we can not make someone love us no matter how much we love them or want it.
Unrequited love is just about the hardest thing to deal with but you will only hurt yourself if you continue fighting a losing battle.
I truly wish you the best.

Oh..it’s ok and no need to apologize. I honestly appreciate your advice. I don’t think I am in love with the wrong gut though. The feelings that I am having are unlike anything I have every had with any other guy before. I mean I had puppy love before, but not real love like what I am experiencing now. Thanks for the compliments as well! It is true though that we can’t force someone to love us. There’s a novel about unrequited love and that made me think of that. Thanks so much for your help! :) It means alot to me!

Do you mind if i ask how old you are?
I hate to break it to you but real love only comes around when you both have it & have it for a decent amount of time & your both on the same wavelength.

I’m glad I helped. Our situations are similar, so some of what I wrote to you is what I have been telling myself. It’s hard, isn’t it? Yesterday I was full of hope, certain that things would work out. Today, I despaired.

I am 20 and yea, true!

Me too and thanks again! Yea, it truly is difficult.

i feel ya girl!! :( i hope that everything gets better!

Awww thanks!!! I honestly appreciate it! I am so glad that I posted my situation on here b/c I never had until the other day! I think it’s great to see other people’s opinion from the outside world esp people that I don’t even know.

Dear, buy fancy lingerie ;) and walk around in it. Its called seduction. Read about how to seduce a man. It’s not really that hard to seduce a man if you want to. Men are visual, wear something REALLY sexy, like short dress, heels. Wear you hair down. Try pheromone perfume formulated to attract men. Go for it! Good luck, honey!

How about for the people that don’t have the figure of a model!!