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This is my first post. Im married for 3 years and 5 months now,we have a 1 year old baby boy. Im here to get help. Im so sad and stress out. My husband and I are always fighting. I just want him to spend time with me and my son. He always on his exbox and he will go to his work, then comehome then later on he is goin to ask me if he can go to the bar and have some beer with his friend… I will say yes but he knew that Im mad. I just cant hide my feeling that I wanted him so bad. I dont have any friends because we just move out here. And my family is in the Philippines. I could’nt drive yet that’s why im stock here in the house and work every weekends to my part time job.Then come home and see all the dishes on the sink. His not helping in the house hold. Im doing everything in the house. He cant even throw the trash unless I told him so. I’ll come home from work and he think that its time for him to have a rest not me. It hurt’s me so bad because my husband is not helping me out. I dont see any concern from him.
He wants me to.. just let him go to the bar without me being mad. Im mad because he have time for all those stuff but he doesnt have time for me and my son. He never ask me if I wanted to go out . I dont feel special at all. And one more thing his friend is single which means that guy have time to go wherever he wanted to. So what im afraid about is… he can drag my husband to club and get drunk and meet a girl… I just cant give my trust back to him and its killing me. I cant trust my husband goin to a bar or club because I knew that he would lie to me whatever happens there. SO please I need some advice. HOw can I get rid of this. I wanted to trust him again but its just hard for me to do it. I dont know what to do.

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Unnamed Desire offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Miami, FL, US | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

you should sit down to talk to him and tell him how you feel instead of saying yes to him all the time why dont you say no since he knows that you are mad everytime you let him go he shouldnt mind staying home once in a while to be with you

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SayItsSo offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 13 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

pray

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thony_swoos offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

I think you need to talk to someone that is so close to you or people that you think that can give you strength and tell them why you are sad and depress. TO be honest im depressed too and thinkin of suicide too but I keep thinking that i have my family there who love me… That makes me stronger and fight the thought of suicide. Anyway may I know why your thinkin of suicide and why your deppress and sad? If you dont mind.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

Talk to that husband of yours and get rid of that xbox. Tell him to help you out and go out with him to the bar. No fair he gets to have all the fun and leave you at home taking care of the baby. He needs to grow up and be a responsible, married man that he is. Tell him.

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megadouble offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

You’re in a difficult situation, I’m sorry. Your husband still seems to feel like he wants the single life, which includes bringing his single friend to drink and such. Your husband needs to understand he now has a family, and that things are different. Personally, I don’t think going out to the bar on a regular basis is acceptable, maybe on a “once a week” basis - but not every night, His friend may not even realize he is causing a problem, but be careful about speaking to him about that directly. Try to fill your calendar with other things your husband might attend with you and the baby - rather than the bar - an event in the park, a picnic your pre-arrange, a kid’s movie. Try and draw him back in. Still allow him his freedom, but make him realize he has more than that single life to enjoy now. Good luck.

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Rb12Garci offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (2 weeks, 2 days after post)

my husband and i have been married for 6 years and now he wants to start all over as boyfrined and girl friend and we have 3 little girls he also said he wants to go to the bar with his friends. he went a few times he said by letting him go let makes him feel good that i trust him is also killed me in side just to through my 6 years out the window i just kept thinking i love him and i got to make it work.

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