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A very close friend of mine came to me today looking for advice that i struggled to give (I will refer to him as Bob).
Bob had been seeing this girl for about 6-7 months but they kept the relationship somewhat secret (only really close friends knew about the relationship). So anyways Bob became very close to this girl but she had lost all of his trust when she admitted to cheating on him twice. They then decided to end the relationship but remain friends. Now here is where the problem begins. Of the close friends that knew about the relationship, some supported the break-up while others wanted them to work it out. One friend in particular that was very close to Bob kept urging Bob to work on fixing the relationship (i will refer to this friend as Joe). Bob trusted Joe as a good friend. Not even a month later, Bob discoverd that Joe had done sexual things with Bob’s ex. Bob confronted Joe about it and Joe admitted to doing it and apologised. Bob was in shock and does not know where to take it from here. He does not care about his ex, he understands she is free to do stuff with whoever she wants, he just did not expect his friend that wanted them to get back together to turn on him. Both Bob and Joe are important friends to me and I am the only friend of the two that knows about this drama. Once everyone finds out it will likely divide my friends. I don’t want that so i want to know what i should advise Bob to do so that Joe is not let off the hook but without many people finding out whats going on. Please help
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