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You are the only person in this world that can change yourself! And it is 100% possible. You can do it! Have faith in youself!

I used to be seen as sarcastic and a bit stand offish but then I spoke to people I had never before and this changed their opinion of me. To those who already knew me they still remembered the old me however appreciated that I was trying to change. It’s funny because even when I was trying not to be sarcastic it didn’t seem to work and I would talk to someone once and they’d notice that I was sarcastic within the first hour so I changed and now I’m seen differently. So in all it is possible to change and be recognised for the changes you’ve made within yourself.

It depends what you complain about, is it something new all the time or the same things?
If it is new all the time then you just need to learn to use the inner monolog(sp) and try to realize that you don’t need to say everything you think.
If it is the same things you complain about all the time then maybe a simple case of addressing these things that are bothering you enough to talk about them all the time and then once you have fixed the problem you have nothing to comapain about.

How much is alot?
It is human nature to complain but then there are times when you shouldn’t.

‘a lot’ is basically when me and a specific person talk. my family is going through some problems, and his family is too, and so we can relate. i was distraught over the one things that happened, and he shunned me and told me to stop being self pitying. normally i would ignore it like any insult, but he’s right, so….

yaaaaaa u just need to be a better communicator and sooo one person talks and one listens..u need to work on listening prolly…don’t dominate the convo okay! Good luck!