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It’s not only guys, women do it too. I just think it’s a human nature to want a physically attractive mate. There are some nice guys that will like you for you but you have to be willing to like them for them even if they are not the ideal guy in your eyes.

I agree with King Kevin on this. Are you saying that you prefer to go out with some ugly guy. And if yes have you ever done it.

A lot of the physical traits that we conside attractive are genetic. Here is a good site for you to check out.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical…

Are yuo trashing yourself?

Here’s what I think. If people are uncomfortable with their looks, do something about the things that you can. If you are comfortable with who you are, be happy. But if you are chubby or obese and happy to be that, then you should accept that there are people that prefer slimmer people.. Power to them too.

Your facial features and height are probably outside of your control, but your body shape, your hair style, your personal grooming are all in your control. I know many people who on the face of it are not beauties, but have done wonders with an imperfect face, physique, etc. Think of some of the most popular movie stars… men and women. Minni Driver, Meryl Streep, Queen Lativa, Jaylo, Many more. In fact, their imperfections is what makes them interesting.

Are you trashing yourself?

Here’s what I think. If people are uncomfortable with their looks, do something about the things that you can. If you are comfortable with who you are, be happy. But if you are chubby or obese and happy to be that, then you should accept that there are people that prefer slimmer people.. Power to them too.

Your facial features and height are probably outside of your control, but your body shape, your hair style, your personal grooming are all in your control. I know many people who on the face of it are not beauties, but have done wonders with an imperfect face, physique, etc. Think of some of the most popular movie stars… men and women. Minni Driver, Meryl Streep, Queen Lativa, Jaylo, Many more. In fact, their imperfections is what makes them interesting.

Another view. I almost feel sorry for the very stunningly beautiful people. From an early age they become obsessed with their looks. They use their looks to atttract the opposite sex and to be noticed and in the limelight all the time. The tragedy is that when you go out with a very good looking girl (or dude), the novelty of their good looks wear off very quickly and they become plain and uninteresting.

Very often they did not develop other skills such as an interesting sense of humour, or interest in other people, etc. Later in life, when their youthful looks disappear they go through immense trauma, because the thing that they always traded on is fading.

Ok, to go a little more on topic. I understand your question but I think it is unfair to ask only men this question. All my life, I have watched the most insincere and crude men end up with beatiful women because of the way they look. And every time, the women come out of the relationship crying on my shoulder about why they are always attracted to the wrong type only to go out and do it again. This is both the sexes that do this.

Why? I think that’s an easy question to answer. Lust. Our first instinct is to go after and be with the one we lust. Emotions do come in to play, but usually the emotions are minimal at the beginning of a relationship and lust easily overpowers them. My wife is attractive, but this isn’t why we are married. I would be lying if I said it isn’t why we started dating. Relationships begin because of that physical draw and physical attraction is important in a relationship.

Teenage guys are more driven by lust than anything else. They aren’t going to get involved with a less than attractive girl unless they see something extremely attractive in them (confidence, talent and intellect). If the guy is vain, then all hope is lost. Get to know the guy and you will have to be patient.

Also, eating healthy (although it is important) isn’t all that necessary. It’s what you do when you aren’t eating that makes the biggest difference. I am also a fan of not drinkin any type of soft drinks, no sweetened tea, and lots of water. This helps to purify your body and keep your matabolism stabilized at a higher rate. A friend came to stay with me once and lost a lot of weight and toned his body by just doing this. Once he started drinking a 2 liter of Mt Dew a day, he gained the weight right back. I believe that this is the reason that america is suffering such a big obesity problem. Americans live off soft drinks, sweet tea, and creamer and sugar in their coffee. Now I’m starting to get off topic and I apologize.

Thank you grateful.