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44yr old disabled guy.

spinal cord injury. paraplegic. Sustained injury 8 years. lie partner of 25 years can not accept the fact that i’m in wheelchair 24/7, says there not a carer, says they can’t cope. says they have a life too. and basicly chucked me out of our home, clothes, medication out on the drive… I can currently not drive, so have got cousin to assist me. Now in a council run care home full of grannies smelling of lavander and pee!! I don’t want the agro, and have done nothing to cause it.
What do I do???? Try and make them understand that yes I do have a total care package and a personal assistant so they do not have to “do” things for me, or do I just restart a life on my own. ???

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c-eek offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (32 minutes after post)

Good communication with the staff where you are should help them understand where you are coming from. Is there a patient advocate on the site? I would think a call to the advocate requesting a meeting might be helpful.

BTW, even in a facility full of old grannies, you should be able to find interesting people with whom to form friendships. Some of us old grannies have interesting stories to tell and a desire to interact with others. Give us a chance.

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courtybubble offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 176 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 16 minutes after post)

well, your partner sounds like a bit of an ahole te be quite honest. i would go on and live your life and be successful and happy without them. you dont need that bullshitl

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Help me with: Sooooo I was out running with my hellhound, and bent down to pick up her ball….and BOOMCRACKPOPOUCH went something in my back D’:

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