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Victoria Sponge wrote:
I wish I could give you a little as a gift honey, as we have become such good friends here, but right now with the move to Australia we need every penny, hence the fact I have sold most of my possesions for £1 each, if we get settled in Aus and get a job, I will definatly be sending you a gift donation, so sorry I can’t help you out right now tho

I understand :) I just invited everyone I knew on here. I didn’t expect anything from you cause I know you are moving.

Stoli wrote:
I truly don’t know anything about weddings but that seems like a lot to me for a cheap wedding. I don’t know, I have just always imagined before I’d pay that much for a wedding I’d fly me and my bride out the Vegas for $500 and stay at a cheap $50 a night hotel and get Elvis to marry us on the strip. I understand everyone is different and most women want that fairytale wedding. But as a male I would find more fun doing something fun and crazy like randomly flying to Vegas to get married. That could also be your honeymoon.

My parents scraped up some money to buy a dress and rent a small church out for a wedding and my dad just wore his Marines uniform. I’m sure they payed no more than $200. They didn’t have a honeymoon, but that’s what I call a cheap wedding.

To each their own I guess. Women got to live the fairytale.

Alot of women spend a good $10,000 so less than $4,000 is very good. We are doing nothing fancy whatsoever. And we are trying so hard to work at it. I don’t need to live a “fairytale” I just want a nice, small wedding.

~Nat~ wrote:

Stoli wrote:
I truly don’t know anything about weddings but that seems like a lot to me for a cheap wedding. I don’t know, I have just always imagined before I’d pay that much for a wedding I’d fly me and my bride out the Vegas for $500 and stay at a cheap $50 a night hotel and get Elvis to marry us on the strip. I understand everyone is different and most women want that fairytale wedding. But as a male I would find more fun doing something fun and crazy like randomly flying to Vegas to get married. That could also be your honeymoon.

My parents scraped up some money to buy a dress and rent a small church out for a wedding and my dad just wore his Marines uniform. I’m sure they payed no more than $200. They didn’t have a honeymoon, but that’s what I call a cheap wedding.

To each their own I guess. Women got to live the fairytale.

Alot of women spend a good $10,000 so less than $4,000 is very good. We are doing nothing fancy whatsoever. And we are trying so hard to work at it. I don’t need to live a “fairytale” I just want a nice, small wedding.

Also, this is what me AND my fiance worked out TOGETHER.

Stoli wrote:
I understand. Everyone is different and have different opinions.

I just thought I would share my opinion and maybe give you an idea for a cheaper wedding. I know they cost a lot, my aunt recently got married and she spent over 25k on her wedding. On the other hand, you don’t need any money to get married.

I have waited for this moment for a long time. It’s important to me, to my fiance, to us. We are doing the wedding as cheap as we can (justice of the peace ceremony) and we want a small honeymoon. Listen, my fiance and I have never been ANYWHERE together. Just near where we live. We want this to be a chance for us to go somewhere together and have a honeymoon. We aren’t even going that far just 4 hours away. We’ve lived together for over 5 years and it’s been really tough money wise. We need this, we want this, we deserve this especially after how hard we have worked together to make it on our own. I don’t want someone to magically come on here and say hey i’ll pay for their whole wedding/honeymoon (though it would be nice lol) i just want a little help if someone can. That’s all.

Stoli wrote:
I understand. I just thought I would give you another point of view.

Well I appreciate it. It’s just….I’ve been through hell and back so many times in my life (I know like lots of other people!) but it’s been really rough on me and all i want is for this to be special….i get that i can’t have a fairytale wedding we just can’t afford it but all we want is a simple, small courthouse wedding with a small honeymoon 4 hours away….

Victoria Sponge wrote:
Hey guys lets not fight, Stoli Nat didnt ask for your opinion just your help just politly decline and we can all get on with our lives, Nat I think you will get the day you deserve, I bet that wonderful fiance will pull something out of the bag for you :)

we aren’t fighting but thanks. my fiance is really great :) and thanks. i just want to be able to achieve what we want more than anything. we aren’t really asking for much….

Stoli wrote:

Victoria Sponge wrote:
Hey guys lets not fight, Stoli Nat didnt ask for your opinion just your help just politly decline and we can all get on with our lives, Nat I think you will get the day you deserve, I bet that wonderful fiance will pull something out of the bag for you :)

I know she didn’t ask. I’m sorry if you find what I say disrespectful in any type of way. I just thought I would throw in an idea. I believe when you are doing something as big as getting married you have to look over all options.

i know you were just making a suggestion. no worries.

friendlyheart wrote:
dear the only thing i can give you right now is a promise that i’ll pray for you to get as much money as possible:)
and to wish you a perfect wedding :)
hope it all goes fine.. don’t worry too much, do not stress , just enjoy the moment.. live your dream;)

thanks