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well lets talk.
whats the problem??

I have a husband that is bi-polar, he is out of work due to back problems. I have to worry if we are going to be able to pay this bill or that bill. I try so hard and it isnt EVER good enough. I just dont know what to do. I want him to appreciate what I do for him and our family, but all I get is treated like CRAP. I just dont know how long I can take it anymore.

silly question, but have you tried to talk to him??
i mean like really sit down serious talk??
i know how important bills are, but you cant let them worry you so much.
your happiness and well being is more important.

If you only knew how he is. There is NO sitting down and trying to have a SERIOUS conversation. Yea believe me I know my happiness is more important , I just havent really been happy in so long I tend to forget what it feels like. LIke right now I have NO clue where in the world he is. We dont live in a HUGE city we live way back in the country so theres not alot of places that he could be, and Im scared to think what he could be doing.

well firstly, pray.
know one can help you the way the lord can.
have you considered divorce??
or getting him help??

All I can say is I have prayed. And yea I have VERY seriously considered divorce. and I have TRIED and TRIED to get him the help that he needs. I am at the point I need Serious help too. I am so messed up emotionaly right now.

I apppreciate you talking to me…Im going to try and get some sleep..what I can. Thanks again!! :)

youre very welcome
and i really hope things get better for you

Is your husband getting help with being bi-polar?

Yes he is on medicine for is bi-polar but it isnt helping like it was. He goes in September for another evaluation for his bi-polar and depression.

Then he need stronger medicine asap. Did he return home now?

yea he did make it back home. Even though I was worried about him and wanted him home, when he got here all we did was argue. I ended up crying my eyes out. Then I didnt want him to be here. Im in a no win situation. All I want is for him to treat me with some respect. He told me last night that if it wasnt for our son he wouldnt be here, and Im not the one treating him wrong. I told him if that was the way that he felt to leave. Of course he wont though, because all he can say is this is my house and dont you forget it.

Have you found help like counseling? I know not the same but a guy who is autistic. His wife really had to set him down and said you don’t change your attitude in xx weeks and I’m gone. He was very stressed at work. Because she did that he realizes that his marriage was in bad shape but not that it was this bad. He left his job changed for the sake of his marriage. And there doing well now.

If you let man misbehave they will keep doing it. Because one never said to stop to this point and no further.

Try to find professional help for both and, sit him down.

If anyone went to counseling it would have to be me. He doesnt believe in it. I have threatened to leave and he tells me too. Im not for sure what wrong with him he has NEVER acted this bad.

Then you need to draw the line. A relationship is working together that includes counseling. Seems he is misbehaving very badly now and calling your bluff. As he is overly confident you won’t leave so he will keep misbehaving because there is no threat.

Up to you to decide what to do. But somewhere down the line you need to say stop and no further. Stand up for yourself!