Everyone has a personality, and right now yours is being negative. First, you need to tell us what you like to do. Everyone has something they like to do.
Jr. wrote:
Everyone has a personality, and right now yours is being negative. First, you need to tell us what you like to do. Everyone has something they like to do.
it’s true, i have a lot of negative thoughts, no matter how i try to change the way i think about things, i always get back to such negativity and uncertinity about everything.
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actually i don’t have anyone in my life that i can ask for guidance or advice, and sometimes i feel that i can’t handle anything happening to me, i always feel it’s not my responsabilty, as if my life is not my own.
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Join the army, put some fuzz on those kiwis boy!
lil wrote:
Jr. wrote:
Everyone has a personality, and right now yours is being negative. First, you need to tell us what you like to do. Everyone has something they like to do.
it’s true, i have a lot of negative thoughts, no matter how i try to change the way i think about things, i always get back to such negativity and uncertinity about everything.
You trained your mind to think this way, now you need to un-train it by reinforcing the positive behavior and correcting the negative. Every time you catch yourself thinking negative, find a way that will remind you that you need to think positive. Use something that you can carry around with you.
Jr. wrote:
You trained your mind to think this way, now you need to un-train it by reinforcing the positive behavior and correcting the negative. Every time you catch yourself thinking negative, find a way that will remind you that you need to think positive. Use something that you can carry around with you.
Yep that’s how you do it. Well said Jr.
how old are you? some people realize what they want very early on in life. some don’t. no worries, i’m sure it’s not the end for you. but just because things are “vague” doesn’t mean you should be stuck in inaction. uncertainty is why life is exciting. why don’t you explore different aspects of life so you’d know what you actually want in life? go to a career seminar, talk to a life coach, meet different people and talk to them about what they do. opening your eyes to these possibilities may point you to a direction.
You trained your mind to think this way, now you need to un-train it by reinforcing the positive behavior and correcting the negative. Every time you catch yourself thinking negative, find a way that will remind you that you need to think positive. Use something that you can carry around with you.[/quote]
It’s true Jr, maybe it was the way I was brought up, that built my negative thought patterns, and i really need to change that, sometimes i try to feel grateful for what i have and keep my mind away from what i don’t have, sometimes i can, sometimes i fall in the same negative judmental pattern.
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vivzofwale wrote:
how old are you? some people realize what they want very early on in life. some don’t. no worries, i’m sure it’s not the end for you. but just because things are “vague” doesn’t mean you should be stuck in inaction. uncertainty is why life is exciting. why don’t you explore different aspects of life so you’d know what you actually want in life? go to a career seminar, talk to a life coach, meet different people and talk to them about what they do. opening your eyes to these possibilities may point you to a direction.
Thanks, that was really helpful, I do need to open up so that I can see what’s best for me.
well, i’m 24, I missed a lot of opportunites because of fear, and now thinking of these opportunities makes me fall in loops of blame, regret and nonforgivess.
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lil wrote:
vivzofwale wrote:
how old are you? some people realize what they want very early on in life. some don’t. no worries, i’m sure it’s not the end for you. but just because things are “vague” doesn’t mean you should be stuck in inaction. uncertainty is why life is exciting. why don’t you explore different aspects of life so you’d know what you actually want in life? go to a career seminar, talk to a life coach, meet different people and talk to them about what they do. opening your eyes to these possibilities may point you to a direction.
Thanks, that was really helpful, I do need to open up so that I can see what’s best for me.
well, i’m 24, I missed a lot of opportunites because of fear, and now thinking of these opportunities makes me fall in loops of blame, regret and nonforgivess.
no problem. :) i think this is what they call quarterlife crisis lolz. :) we’re almost the same age so i kind of get what you’re saying. i hope you do consider all the advice given here esp about being positive. best of luck! :)
Thanks to all the advice, i do consider it, and if you have ideas about being more positive, you can shane it with me :)
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In therapy they suggest using a cactus to pinch yourself with when you get a negative thought, lol, the problem with that is how the heck do you carry around a cactus, lol.
Oh, I have it, some ppl use a rubber band around their wrist. When a neg. thought comes to mind, they snap it.
Jr. wrote:
Oh, I have it, some ppl use a rubber band around their wrist. When a neg. thought comes to mind, they snap it.
yes, i heard about that one before :)
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personally, i find spending time with positive people works best. and getting rid of the negative ones. emotions are contagious after all.
vivzofwale wrote:
personally, i find spending time with positive people works best. and getting rid of the negative ones. emotions are contagious after all.
That’s really good advise.
Yeah I agree with vivz, surround yourslef with positive people and they will make you feel happy, surround yourself with negative people and they will drag you down.
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