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Hi everyone im new to this site but am in need of some advice, hence joining up.

Let me start by explaing a bit about myself and my life.
My name is Matt and I’m 22. I’ve always been a quiet person and blended into the background how ever I’ve never been short of friends. When I turned 18 I got my first and only serious girlfriend and was with her for 3 years but I broke up with her as I felt she controlled my life and was stopping me seeing my friends. Since I split up with her I started seeing my friends again and at first it was great but then when I was with them I just wanted to be on my own to play my computer games and do what I wanted etc. Then when I’m on my own I want to be with friends and I cant win. My friends invite me out to places but I always come up with an excuse and don’t go for some reason and sit in on my own and then feel like crap an lonely. I’ve done this so many times now I don’t have many friends left and I have never been able to get girls (im just the friend guy never the boyfriend type I guess). My last and best friend I’ve lost contact with over a girl I really liked and it turns out she Isn’t even interested in me so I’ve lost both of them now. I am just getting more an more depressed each day and feel so alone and I don’t know what to do. I’ve considered going to the doctors to speak to a pyciatrist or get some antidepressants but am to scared to go and talk about it. I would also like to try and find somewhere to meet new friends and start again but don’t no where to start. Any advice welcome if anyone has any

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

out with the old in with the new, of course always be open to everyone (new and old)True friends will come back. just chill out…roll with the punches. time heals all wounds….then call me lol
meet new people
get outta ur cave
go somewhere u wouldnt normally go
do u while ur still young

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 159 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

Sometimes when you have a girlfriend, you have to dedicate time to her. Sometimes is good to be alone but try not to feel lonely. When you want to play on your computer do it, however when the chance comes up to go out with your friends do that as well. Your computer is always going to be there. Computers don’t complain. Friends start ignoring you if you ignore them. You have to realize one is just a freaking machine and you might be treating it like it’s human. The human contact you always want to cultivate and keep.

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m4tt offline Verified User (3 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (45 minutes after post)

thanks for the advice people, i appreciate it :)

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

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